I want to share 2 interesting stories with you concerning Farang and Thai women. They might seem negative but there is something very interesting about both and I like what can be learned from them. In fact I find them heartwarming and at the end of this post I am going to ask you to do something for me……but first the stories.
Thai and Farang Story Number #1
Firstly there is a man I have consulted with a few times now called David. David is an older gentleman from England and has now had a few experiences with Thai women. These experiences have not really worked out well for him though because all 3 relationships have ended in a sad way.
She was not being sincere about her intentions. It wasn’t really about money but she was playing a game
The first was because of such a large age difference and that the young Thai girl involved really had never considered a relationship with an older man and a Farang. She wasn’t against it but she was not positive either and in the end David ended it. His second experience was a bit of a disaster. I shan’t tell the exact detail here and I will tell you why at the end of this story but it ended because she was not being sincere about her intentions. It wasn’t really about money but she was playing a game. It was a game of revenge for something he had done even though he was not aware of it at the time. When her game was revealed obviously the relationship ended.
Their relationship just broke down, along with David’s heart
David’s last relationship started very well and continued for some time. He visited her family at one time who were all very genuine and not poor and he had since kept in regular contact and planning to go to Thailand again. However it really faded as she had some misconceptions about David and what he was prepared to offer her. Yes she became a bit greedy and started to see bright shiny objects which were not really available, meaning David is not a rich man at all and was not able to give her all the things she thought she wanted, including him being able to spend more time in Thailand at that time and so their relationship just broke down, along with David’s heart.
He has been heartbroken and disappointed 3 times with Thai women all for different reasons
Now I know many of you will have all sorts of opinions about these girls and David. Some of you might say he is lucky to escape and some may think he is stupid. What I can tell you is David is a very genuine and caring man. He is intelligent. Yes he is older and so he understands that he doesn’t have the luxury of plenty of time to find a new partner for the rest of his life. This can make him a little desperate and now he has been heartbroken and disappointed 3 times with Thai women all for different reasons.
None of these Thai women have been bar girls or are in anyway scammers. Even the one who was playing a game with him. So what is heartwarming about this you may ask?
Well the answer is his attitude!
You see David still has a positive attitude about Thailand and Thai women. He doesn’t blame everything on them and come away with the attitude all Thai women are after money, bad or trying to cheat and lie, he doesn’t paint all Thai women with the same brush.
He still dearly wants and intends to have a genuine and loving relationships with a good Thai woman
What is truly good about his attitude is that he accepts his own part in each of these relationship failures. He sees that he made mistakes, he had expectations that maybe were not realistic or possible just yet and he has taken the view that he will set his life up in a way to be more able to find the right partner. He still dearly wants and intends to have a genuine and loving relationships with a good Thai woman. He is not being negative but he does realize that there are dangers and he has to take care. I personally believe that with his attitude he will get what he wants eventually.
Now I have not revealed all the detail of David’s story because I shall be posting it in full on my website Thai Girlfreind Advisor very soon so if you would like to read all the details of what happened to him then please keep a look out for that because it is really interesting!
Thai and Farang Story number 2
The second story is about a dear friend of mine. I have known Steve for many years and whilst he is from England he has lived in Australia for many years. Steve has recently got married to a Thai woman from near Phuket. She lives in Australia and has done for about 4 or 5 years and I know her personally too. I can tell you that Steve is a very spiritual person and also very intelligent. His Thai wife is a country girl but she is hardworking and loyal and has learned a lot in her time in the West.
Steve is also not a rich man, far from it but he and his new Thai wife still offered to help her parents with extending their kitchen
Last year Steve went to Phuket to see her family and they stayed for a few weeks and in that time they got married with all the things that comes with it which I know Steve really enjoyed. He is very happy with his Thai wife and she is with him. Steve is also not a rich man, far from it but he and his new Thai wife still offered to help her parents with extending their kitchen. Steve and his wife have also bought some land behind her parent’s house and intend to build a house there and spend half their time in Thailand and half in Australia.
Steve told me recently that it was funny because her parents had now said to them can they build another story on top of their house now that the kitchen is done, which of course Steve and his wife will need to pay for.
Now I know again many of you may quickly jump and say oh there you go see, they are after his Farang money just like all the rest of them and that perhaps now Steve has been caught and might be in trouble now.
They don’t have much money but they have a lot of love and kindness
But let me tell you what Steve’s attitude is about this. When he was telling me this he was smiling and just said that both he and his wife had said to them….woah just hold on. First we want to build our house. He said he is happy to give them money and to help the family and he knows when the house is built they will all be in it all the time. But he said that’s all ok, they are now his family and that is their culture. They are not bad people they are very good people with big hearts and they would do anything for him and his wife too, they don’t have much money but they have a lot of love and kindness and that is all he wants from them.
He accepts that is just part of the culture and their way and that is what he has now joined by marrying their daughter
He is happy to help out, maybe he just need to control them a little and not get carried away with thinking there is an endless supply of money but he does not blame them. He is not negative in fact he said its quite funny and cute really and accepts that is just part of the culture and their way and that is what he has now joined by marrying their daughter.
My thoughts on this……
I love the attitudes of both my good friend Steve and also David because they both show an ability to accept people for what they are and not judge everyone with the same standard. They are willing to look at things from many different perspectives and also take responsibility for their own actions and what may come from them. They can take what might look like a negative and turn it into something positive, they see there is always two sides to everything.
It is for those reasons I have a warm heart about their stories and I believe they will always meet with good fortune even though sometimes they may have to learn along the way.
Once again I very much welcome your comments and thoughts about these but this time as I said at the beginning of this post I would like to ask something of you.
This time I would like you to see any negatives you might at first think about this post and the stories and try to see the other side. What is the positive side of what you might think, what can be learned from it? Try not to go with your first instinct but rather try and peel that away and see what lies beneath it.
Until next week I hope you stay safe and positive in your life