What Kind of Thai Girls Do Foreigners Fall in Love With?
You may remember the great comment and post from our friend Pass about why Thai girls choose foreigners for love and marriage. I think it was really wonderful of Pass to share her thoughts with us and give us some insight into the thought process of Thai girls.
Now, we have the chance to return the favor by providing some information for Pass. She has written to me and asked if I and my readers can help her and other Thai girls by answering the question: “What kind of Thai girls do the foreigners fall in love with”? Specifically she would like to know about what it is you like about Thai girls, what kind of look do you like, what kind of education or qualifications should the girl have and what personality traits are attractive to you.
I hope that I get loads of response to this post in the comments below because I would really like to help Pass (and any other Thai girls that read this post) get an answer to this question and thus have a better understanding of foreign guys and what we are looking for in a girl for love and marriage. Let’s face it, we have loads of questions about Thai girls, but they also have loads of questions about foreign guys.
So let’s all get some karma today and help answer this question for the Thai girls. I’ll start:
I like a girl who is well built and not too thin, lighter skin and with long hair. Short or tall is not that important to me, it’s the whole package of how she is built. She should be intelligent and preferably will have a university degree, but it’s not necessary. It would be good if she can speak at least passable English and is willing to learn more. Yes I will learn Thai, but I think English will be more useful to her than Thai would be to me. Qualifications are not that important, although I do prefer a girl who at least works, preferably in a professional field (education, healthcare, law, etc). She should be patient and kind and should be able to cook (yes it’s true, the way to a guys heart IS through his stomach!) and she should have a strong family connection. Most of all she should be madly in love with me and willing to do anything for us to be together. Lucky me…I found Golf!
OK guys your turn. What would you look for in a Thai girl if you were looking for a wife?
The amount of pussy-wipped betas on here is amazing… I cringe when I read the amounts of money you spend on these girls. Infact, you are the reason why thousands of men are being scammed every year…and many of you are probably in the process of being financially buttfucked. I love asian girls to btw, but to involve money with them is asking for trouble.
I’m 58, I have ever since my first visit to PI, just been enthralled with asian beauty. Some Asian women are very forthcoming, others more reserved. I am not partial to any one ethnicity. For me it is how do we communicate, what is your heart, looks can fade, guys!! Would rather have a lady who has a heart of romance and gold than some young or even older hot looking mama! So is there something special I look for in a Thai lady or asian lady? It’s the heart and then the passion for a loving, romantic relationship!!
Pat
You guys have compassion and huge generosity. Fine! but why only to the ones with PUSSY?. Why not to older people, younger handicapped children and less fortunated men?……Just you guys all are “Horny” and want to “Own” a Pussy for yourself. In the mind of those girls, you guys are Stupid and have to “Line UP” and PAY them for your Erections. They (Girls) have Pity for you guys.
It’s quite a nice life (having a Pussy) and collect money from Stupid Men!…..Hahahhahhah!……..Pay your dues guys!!!
You are obviously a bitter man trying to posion the well!
for me i prefer brown skin long black hair no more than 5/2 5/4 in height good sense of humour dress well and tastfully and not afraid to show feelihgs,kiss or hug WITHOUT BEING ASKED OR ME MAKING FIRST MOVE all .the above are most inportant.Luckily have found one like this and also looks like a angel and she is in late thirtys but looks twentys has two lovely daughters good cook and honest marry again never last time 33 years and she still let me down buddist wedding yes official a no no to many problems and expenses if gos wrong last time cost me £90000 but would make out will to give on death for her security.Then if walks away nothing same as when met i think this is more than fair?
No. You should pay more. In fact, you marry an American woman, she is entitled to HALF of everything you got.
You want a maid and a hooker? Go buy these. Leave the girls in Thailand alone.
Why don’t they talk about forign woman falling for Thai guys hehe that’s what happened to me, I’m only young and live in Australia but the Thai boys on the beach are very sweet and cute, not all are sleazy as so many think
Nice to see you here Claire and hear about your adventures in Thailand. I have to say that I don’t believe foreign women falling in love in Thailand is as common as foreign men falling in love, but the main reason I don’t talk about foreign women falling in love here is that I’m a guy and so have no experience with Thai guys.
To all above who has a good and bad perception about Thai Girls. I’m a Thai girl and I of course want to date with Farang guys. I read the facts above and some of them make me have a bad feeling. The one that said Thai Girls go to the bar because they are looking for the rich guy and want some money from you guys. I don’t deny it. It’s true but not every girl. I am the one who enjoy going to the bar and have a drink with my friend. I might look for a guy but not going to end up in bed with him. I probably am in 0.01% who goes to the bar and not looking for sex like others. I think I’m well educated though. I’ve got bachelor degree in business and I’ve got a very good career and the salary is quite good. I have a good family which not want Farang to support to give a money cause we are the middle people. We can afford our own life and of course I don’t want Farang to give me the money or anything. Just be good and really love me. I’m a Thai girl with a Tan skin and I might not be Farang type (since someone has said they like lighter skin) but I’m proud to be myself and proud of what I am. Believe me that some Farang thinks that I’m a prostitue because I just have a Tan skin. I don’t blame them. It is the way that Thai girls do and act to make Farang have a bad attitude about Thai girls. It’s our fault at all. However, I just want you guys to know that I’m the one who looking for Farang guys to be a partner of my life. I like Farang because I think they are attractive, gentlemen and of course way more handsome and sexy than Thai men. Everytime that I see Good looking Farang with the girl who less attractive and beautiful than me, it really pisses me off. I thought that why he doesn’t look to me. What is not good about me. I’m not very hard to find but I don’t understand why I haven’t got one. I’m not telling to to think about girls in the bar are bad or looking for some money but if you just look into it you will see that there will be one that quite outstanding and not that bad. Just open your mind and you will find the Thai girl like me.
Tan skin…suay mak mak 555
the darker the skin tone the more beautiful in my eyes
If we wanted white skin we would not be looking in Thailand, I love my Ladyboys dark skin, she is more feminine than any woman in the UK.
I want an oriental looking woman who is proud of her femininity, to many girls in the UK are chav alcoholics. I don’t drink,Smoke or do drugs and I want a wife with more traditional values. For me it’s the looks and values of the Thai’s that I love.
Hi April
Some people in Britain are indeed racist, but for most of us skin colour is quite irrelevant and I personally find dark skin attractive. I see you posted your comment last year but I hope you see this reply, and that you find a nice farang man (I wondered what farang meant seen it often on Thai Love Links) who makes you happy.
Kevin
HI Kevin,
Just some knowledge sharing. I am not Thai. I am an Indian living in Thailand. Just saw your question. Farang may be a word derived from the Sanskrit word “Firang”. Firang is made up of 2 words – rang meaning colour and fi meaning “off”.. so off-colour or no colour – meaning white. Many Thai words have originated from Sanskrit.
But it could also have come from the Arabic term Al-farangi – meaning a man from western europe or “A Frank”…
Ayutthaya was the ancient trading capital of Asia (12th -13th century). Some words may have been picked up from the Arab traders.
Thanks
Deepa
And what’s wrong with you looking for sex?
Are you single? Do you use condoms? If so, where’s the harm?
If a guy uses a girl because her pussy is tighter than women from his country, and the girl uses him for his money, then why not? Both benefit. Both enjoy.
The problem is in using people unfairly. Abusing people. That’s the issue.
Girls who take EVERYTHING from the guy and leave him to rot.
Guys who knowingly spread HIV or hurt girls for their entertainment.
These are the ones who are a problem.
We’re adults here (or should be). So be adult and take responsibility for what’s in your pocket and what’s between your legs. Some Thai girls like farangs because they have bigger dicks than Thai guys. So? Boys and girls like bigger and smaller all kinds of things. This girls prefers that smaller, this guy prefers that bigger. Some of the farang girls love a handsome dark Thai beach guy.
And what makes a Thai girl different if she does a little more for a rich guy? Is any other nationality different?
For me, the kind of wife I want is one who has a good bit of fire in her, a sweet tight pussy, who loves it when we fuck, and who loves me. That’s the woman I’ll stay with the rest of my life.
Ohhh ..I think If u want a Thai gf..U should search the web. It’s just better than bar girls. Good Thai ladies do not travel in nigh clubs and do not work as bar girls. A good Thai lady has an education and can do everything. They are nice and have good qualities but just do not have time to see someone if u use a website just to make u click..better.
If u see girls in a night club (bar girls), I think u will meet someone who just likes money because going to nightclubs they need to used a lot of money and they care about u if u have money. If you want sex u just pay 4 her. It’s fair!!
So if u want marriage to someone in a nightclub why do u choose her? Because u think u do not have quality also? So u do not analyze and think again because marriage is just very important.
But if u lucky u will meet good someone in bar girls.Hope u will to happy.But it’s 0.01 %
If u want someone good I think u should to search from Internet better.^^
Ps..I respect all thai girls but I just think Thailand have a good place for u can going..but u choose to going Bar girls and then u writed they are so bad..just want you money only.If u open mind and think bar girls in every countrys Just have aim for money same……..so why just have bar girs if not want money and sex?
Not in Thailand only.!!!!!
Plese respect Thai girls.
you totally right~
These are the things that I want for a Thai Girl
1. 2-7 years older than me
2. Caring
3. Kind
4. Loving
5. Thoughtful
6. Beautiful
7. Honest
8. Ready to be there for me at all times
lol there’s a saying when the money runs out so do the Issan girls. After they’ve sucked the last bit of money for themselves or family and there’s nothing left beautiful smiles turns to sneers of you shit guy. Issan ladies are well known for this. I would be worried to take them home to your country once the visa for residency is through they leave and take half of what you have left. I to have been bitten after saving her mother from dying and the same with her daughter with large hospital bills then faced a raging gambling habit back home in Oz only to be left two months after her permanent residency came through. With credit cards maxed and bank accounts empty she left. In Thailand there small fish in a big pond in your homeland there a big poor fish in a large pond in need of help which farang men love cause they’re needed. My ex left minus my son thank god i have the pleasure to bring him up and he is very happy with me. She found some other bloke and blew $20,000 AUD of his at the casino in a month from a joint bank accounts. She had a great job and threw it away.
I love Thai ladies but am skeptical of there motives. There’s always someone sick or a buffalo died and they need another etc. etc.. http://www.mango sauce .com is a good laugh with many personal stories.
sean
i left her 2 months ago, and since that we talking on the phone everyday, sometimes she call me, sms and skype..but she not asking for money.. okay i was sending her 300 euro but she never asking..she was never asking in Thailand either..
maybe my Issan TGF is stupid
but one thing i know..that 300 is average salary in Thailand and for me is just a good feeling to help, when i can afford it !!!
Get real that’s near 13,500 bht a month enough to pay the rent and more. She will of course be back for more. Our generosity is our biggest fault. A fool and his money soon part. Don’t send anymore and see if she still hangs on to you, till she finds another sap. Spend your money on an investigator if you believe her, won’t cost much and they do work. But do you really want to find out the truth or are you happy thinking someone halfway across the world really cares about you. I wish i had spent that money before i learned otherwise. Thais love Thailand they have there own kingdom they dont want us just our money. Western life is not sanuk (fun) But spending your 300 euro a month sure is fun. Ok what does she work at Jan.
sean, i dont see the world so dark…
Sorry to hear that Jan. Although there is just a hint of bitterness in Seans reply, in this case i suspect he is spot on.
Thai girls are very hard to classify in general terms, but for every money grabbing girl who scams you, there is always a tart with a heart.
I tried the bar scene when i first came here, and maybe i was lucky or maybe i was just careful, and did a little research and listened to friends before i jumped in the deep end. In my experience, they are all trying to earn money and it’s usually to support family. Bar girl is just a job like any other. Ihave met a few wrong ‘uns but mostly i have met pleasant hard working ladies who like to enjoy themselves.
If you treat them well and repect what they are doing, and why they are doing it, you’ll get along just fine.
I was in a bar one night, and i had a little too much to drink. A girl i knew put me in a taxi took me home and put me to bed, leaving me and my wallet safe and intact. She then went back to work.
A few days later, I bar fined her and took her out for a meal and then to a club. She didn’t ask me for a penny. We said goodnight and she went back to work. That was over three years ago and we are still friends now.
Look Jan most Thais love there food and culture to much and miss home when there gone . They are Nationalistic. Except for my ex she’s on the pigs back over here the government give her rent assistance ,unemployment benifits, health care card. She works for cash, has a lot of guys wanting her so why would she want to go back. It’s a great life for her here. I have my son so I’m happy and can laugh at it now. Too bad for for my sons self esteem in later years when he realises her game. She won’t look after him as it cuts into her casino time. My ex could not give a shit about Buddha or country shes made it already. Government have English course for new immigrants here. Where they taught her what they could do for her if she left me. Remember when they get to your country they take half of everything you own when they split and what ever you’ve done for them and their family doesn’t matter at all. Shut up cop it sweet and move on sucker was my lawyers remark. You brought her here mate. I to have met many ladies in Thailand bars and yes some are good and some bad. A lot of Thai bar girls go karaoke where the Thai men take care of them and your money. My ex’s sister owns a bar and I’ve seen a lot of shit go down. One girl had 4 men sending her money every month they all payed her to stop work. She only stopped when they came back to Thailand and who ever got her the visa first won the prize her. Too bad for the other 3 guys. I could write a book on it. It’s a right of passage for bar girls to do this to farangs. Get a lady who has a good job is the only way. Buddha’s teachings are right mind, right job, right speech and right actions where is working in bar all the above? So Jan would you send me 300 euros a month if i told you were a good man and good heart every day. lol. Thanks and sorry if I hurt anyone’s egos . I’m living the truth with a smile every day .
I have a reasonable amount of experience in this area , and hopefully I can help some others to learn from my mistakes . First of all the ” money issue ” will almost certainly arise for the Farang , and even though a little money can go a long way , the amounts requested generally wont be ” Little ” . Always remember , how much it actually costs to live in Thailand and don’t convert in your head to the US$ or the Euro , think in Baht ..this is most important .
I look first and foremost for Honesty , there are many ways you can establish this . Honesty , and lack of Greed , Greed is unfortunately extremely common , and believe me , the more you give ..the more they will request .Some girls are incredibly ” over committed financially ” in the beginning , make sure you check this out , It simply cant be your issue if she is over committed with Debt , make sure that if you do give the family some money that they Thank You , as this is unusual you explain that this is part of your culture , happy to share , but this is a ” Gift ” Many of these families wont even ask where their daughter got the money from and will see the Farang as some kind of lifeline .
As to other qualities , I look for active , committed girls who look after themselves , a Degree is pretty much essential ..but be warned ,pretty much everyone has a degree these days , business sense I find handy because they will have a better idea with Farang . Looks , well I just adore most Thai girls , slim is important ..but there are just so many beautiful ladies , I look to the other factors .
Dependent on your personal circumstance , don’t rule out a lady 40 + , there are some delightful , intelligent , incredible ladies in this category , who will just blow you away .
My new girl meets all this criteria , and I believe my past experience will be incredibly beneficial . Cant wait to get back to Bangkok for a decent period of time .
Good Luck to both the Guys and Girls
Dave
Dave
Your comment “a Degree is pretty much essential ..but be warned ,pretty much everyone has a degree these days , business sense I find handy because they will have a better idea with Farang”
A degree is not essential at all. You’re ignoring a huge pool of quality women who, through no fault of their own, lack formal education. Many of these girls are a lot more intelligent than people give them credit for.
It is quite simply arrogant and culturally ignorant, to expect Thai women to have as you say “business sense, because they will have a better idea with farang.” Why should they. Perhaps it would be more appropriate if you had Thai business sense to help you adapt better.
As it seems you only come here on holiday your views are a bit rubbish really.
I went into that trap with a bar girl from Soi Cowboy and spend a lot of money including a big house only to find out that she gambles daily.
I broke off with her two months ago and dating now a girl that comes not from the bars.
I learned a lot in the past one year. My best advise: Have a great time with a bar-girl but the next morning, send her back and don’t see her again.
totally agree
I don’t normally respond to these forums more than a few threads as the threads seem to get off the original subject rapidly and develop into a rant session for small minded people that want to run people down while hiding behind their computers. I only respond to this one in order to explain my situation as it seems a few of the readers have the wrong impression of me. I realize with only the two sentences I wrote it’s hard to understand about someone’s life.
I just want to say I’ve lived in Thailand approx 19 years and have been married to a lovely intelligent Thai girl for approx 18 of those years.
My wife is a great friend/lover and a life long partner. I love her with all my heart and I know she feels the same about me. I would do anything for her; she makes my life complete
The reason I made the statement I did was because over the years although my wife has been true to me and never wavers, it’s her family/friends that have slowly soured my idea of Thailand.
I know there are many many Thai families that are very very good to their falang, son-in-law, brother-in-law, whatever he may be, but it seems to me that generally they tend to take advantage of our kindness. I don’t think they do it maliciously, it’s just that most falangs are very generous so the Thais tend to ask for more and more. The ol’ “give em and inch and they’ll take a mile” thing
My mother raised me to treat people like I want to be treated, but it doesn’t seem to work in Thailand that well. Even though it doesn’t work all the time I still try to adhere to that principal.
I have spent millions of baht on my extended Thai family, a roof for the mother-in-law’s house—which was actually leaking, hospital stays/operations for different family members, schooling for numerous nephews and nieces, health insurance for different family members, pick-ups/motorcycles for various family members…the list goes on and on. In addition to the family, I also donate rice/other foodstuffs to the local orphanage, so you can see I am not a cheapskate as one reader mentioned.
When I first came to Thailand I was a lot more generous than I am now; I’ve had too many family members/friends of my wife take advantage of my kindness, so now I’m quite cynical and jaded to the whole Thailand land of smiles way of thinking. I think 20-30 years ago Thailand was a genuine land of smiles, but I think materialism—which the western world has forced on the Thai people, has turned them into a less smiling and more materialistic people than they used to be. There is an example in my wife’s village that says it all; a mother told her 16 year old daughter to go to Pattaya and find a falang and not come back home until she got a pick-up out of him. Like I said before, I know there are many many Thai families that are not like this in any way, but there are quite a few that I know of that are very materialistic.
I told my wife—and she agrees with me totally, that the Thai family group is somewhat like communism—and I don’t mean anything derogatory about this, but if one family member has money and others are poor the money usually works it’s way to the poorer members of the family, so if left unchecked you end up with no rich and no poor, everybody is about the same. I see this with my family also, a lot of my salary has gone to the poorer members of the family, which brought their standard of living up to a level they could have never had without me, while my standard has dropped a little because of the outgoing expenditure of keeping the extended Thai family going. I realize I could have stopped it at any time, but like I said earlier, my mother raised me a certain way and it’s hard to get out of that way of thinking. I could go on and on with examples of things that have happened to me and other falangs I know, but I think I made my point. A lot of Thai women are warm hearted, loving, very faithful devoted partners, but they come under a lot of pressure from their families to take care of them.
I love my wife with all my heart but if I had to do it all over again maybe a Thai girl with no family/friends might be a better option for me……based on my Thai experience.
Hi Steve,
I appreciate you taking the time to elaborate on your earlier response. My thoughts are that your wife and her family are extremely fortunate to have you as a husband/family member. I know exactly where you are coming from. I don’t mind helping out immediate family, but with the Thais it seems as if all that is required to be part of the family is a drop of the same blood. I have been called generous, but I am not a charity and the line has been drawn several times to let everyone know what is and is not acceptable. At the end of the day as long as her mom is happy my wife is happy and she has been the one to put an axe to out of the blue requests several times. You may be right about the communism theory, but that does not mean we have to subscribe to it.
Hey Steve, thanks for the response.
I agree with your idea of “drawing the line” and sticking to it; at the time I always thought that it would be, “the last roof I would have to buy, the last motorcycle I would have to buy, the last trip to the hospital I would have to pay for, the last schooling I would have to shell out for” etc, but it seemed there was always something the family needed help with; the demands have slowed down considerably, but the idea that myself and my wife are the only ones that can help the family is still there because she’s the only girl in the family that has married a falang and the rest of the family are very poor.
Luckily my wife has seen how her family are and has told them we want to retire one day and we can’t take care of everybody forever. They have accepted this and have slowed down on their wants.
I want to say to all the guys that might be getting the wrong idea from my earlier post. There are plenty of nice, good-hearted, wonderful Thai girls out there that will be devoted loving wives–most, more so than western women. Just be careful with the family and friends. And also, don’t do things in Thailand you wouldn’t do in your own country; if something doesn’t seem right, it’s probably not.
An older retired friend of mine told me before I got married, “Steve if you marry a Thai you marry the whole family.” I didn’t realize how serious he was at the time but now I’m now a firm believer in this statement!
A good book for anyone thinking about a serious relationship to a Thai girl is: Private Dancer by Stephen Leather–and no, that’s not me, so I have no interest in selling this book. It mainly concerns relationships with bar girls, but is still an eye opener to things that can/will go on here.
It’s true about Thai family.
Well, i have found mine. She is absolutely beautiful, and everybody tells me that. She is slightly shorter than me,has georgeous light brown skin and long black hair with the face of an angel. She has a university degree and has her own business. She comes from Suratthani province and her family are reasonably well off with a large Palm Oil farm. She is ‘always’ happy and smiling, a good cook and is always there for me. She is very clean and dresses well and rarely asks me for money. In fact i am the happiest luckiest guy in the world. We have known each other for 4 years now and been an item for 2 years. She is above all very mature, aged 41 but looking about 30. We are so in love, i could go on about her forever……sigh !
I,ve been reading the comments here with interest.I,ve been to Thailand often.What,for me,would be very intersting,would be a discussion on how/the different ways in which guys met their girl..
An orphan with no friends would be the perfect Thai girl for me. I think anyone who’s spent any amount of time here around Thai girls–and got to know them for more than one night, will understand this comment.
So Steve ( I just hope you are not the site admin) your perfect woman is absolute alone without anyone or anybody else in her life? WOW!
Are you such a weak man that you have such control issues or are you a cheapskate that you are afraid to make your partner, girlfriend, wife or whatever happy in that you support her relatives and she sees her family looked after? Where is your respect for woman, families? You have to think why you are still single. For more than one night???? Completely disrespectful to each woman regardless where they come from. If one choses his partner with those criteria, he should not wonder when his partner after a time really takes him to the cleaner. I think you are not even able to touch a womans heart and soul due to your worries about responsibility or/and money. Shame.
The Steve that left that comment was not the site admin. My wife has a family with many aunts and uncles, her sister and now our beautiful baby girl. I love everyone of them and feel that they are now a part of my family as well. We don’t “support” them on an ongoing basis as they are also quite proud of their own accomplishments and their ability to care for themselves, but we do help out on occasion with unlooked for gifts…which they are very grateful for. A good part of what my wife is today is due to the upbringing she received from her family and for that I will remain eternally grateful.
I AGREE 200% WITH YOU STEVE………….55555LOL!!!!
After reading the comments in regarding this topic I have to approach the answer in a different way:
She has to be my best friend. She has to be honest to herself and to me. She should be a great lover and be able to connect to me. She should be able to adapt to my culture as much as I am willing to adapt to her’s. She should be able to hold up a conversation at a certain level. She should be proud of herself and have dignity about her background and her whereabout’s. She has to know that she is not just a “bed warmer” and is a human with rights but without being nasty and unfair. She should be kind without taking chances and abusing my love to her as I will respect her too without taking a chance of her situation. And for the older men out there (like me) she has to be not far away from my own age. Let’s be all honest, a age difference of 15 – 40 years, that will not last long. We have to be honest to ourselves too. Some are just buying there OWN youth. Which women of 25 can be genuinely attracted to a 60 year old man full of wrinkles, a pot belly and different interest’s, mentally, emotionally and physically?
But most of all I need to touch her soul and she needs to reply to that.
Hi Karl, I agree with your comments. I have found such a woman, we met over the internet and chatted every night for 12 months before I finally met her in person. I found her to be more than I could have hoped for. Since my return to Aus we still chat every night and text every morning.
To Russel Payne,don’t be in a mad rush to get married.Unless you spend time on the ground,observing her behavior,how do you know shes mentally sound?The biggest problem may be the girls family.Thais are raised to respect their Mother and Father like Gods,even,if they aren’t that good.I would investigate their family and their problems,before making a life altering commitment.Their are lots of beautiful women in Thailand,narrow your choice down to one whose families don’t have a lot of problems and maybe a Bangkok girl who has some idea of are culture.Because Thai culture and western culture are very different.
Girls young enought to be their daughter . Girls who see a foreign man as being very rich . Girls who work in resorts , bargirls and prostitutes . I would advise men to go to the north or northeast , where there are good clean respectable women who will be happy to be a good wife and not be too greedy . Many kind men get stripped of all they have by unscrupulous greedy girls and their families .
The height thing isnt that I stated above is not very important to me, as I am attracted to all types of women, but for some reason I have tended to date shorter women more. Maybe that is just a coincidence
For me; the personality is most important to me. I like a female that is outgoing and eccentric. I typically like females that are not too shy. One that has a lot of energy and a good heart. A good sense of humor is also a must for me. A college degree or working towards one is important to me, but isnt a deal breaker. Some English would be nice or the willing to learn as I would be willing to learn Thai. As far as looks go; I tend to like shorter females that are fit or somewhat fit, but not too thin. I also love a girl that likes to sing and dance as well as go out for a few drinks every so often.
I`ve been to Thailand four times, but I was lucky enough to meet a wonderful woman whom I fell in love with on my second day there. We have been a couple ever since.
What I look for and am attracted to in a girl isn`t different whether she is thai or anything else.
She has to be honest, kind and intelligent. Sense of humor is also important. She also has to be loyal and 100% commited to our relationship.
Looks are not so important. I much more appreciate someone who is happy and smiling than someone who only care about how they look.
Girls who are too focused on materialistic values are not for me.
Of course money is important in life, but if a girl is with me ONLY because of the money then she won`t be with me for very long…
First i pleased to read about your success. i am writing for help, as a 37 yr old (fa rang) white male, who lives in the west midlands region of the UK. I joined thailovelinks August 2010 and have had an excellent response from initial profiles an IMs. my first dilemma is that many girls from bkk seem to appear in their photographs (very sexily dressed to me almost,indecent) i am right to steer clear from these women? and they email from 1am-3am, which makes me very suspicious, why they would be up so early’touting’ for foreign man. do you think this is true?
I have been advised that Thai women ( from the smaller cities or the more rural ares are the most genuine and are not as materialistic as their Bk neighbours, but want to help their family more, financially. do you think this is true?
I was hoping if i linked up with a Thai girl,to go to Thailand for three weeks in January 2011 and perhaps marry her. Is this too soon, or, should i visit twice. I am on a budget so plane hoping every few months isn’t an option.Any advice on this subject would be gratefully received. thanks.
Personally I would be skeptical of the girls who come online in the wee hours of the morning. The scantily dressed photos would also throw up a second red flag. Yes I think I would steer clear of those girls in favor of those who appear more genuine.
I’m assuming that this will be your first trip to Thailand and that being the case I don’t think getting married right away would be the best decision. Are you confident that you will really know anyone well enough after that amount of time to think about marrying them? You might be better off getting to know the Thai culture in more depth before considering proposing marriage to a Thai girl.
That’s not to say that it can’t work. Golf and I knew each other for a very short amount of time before getting married. On the other hand I had spent a fair amount of time in Thailand over the 10 years prior to meeting her. A lot of the decision depends on your personality and expectations as well as your girlfriends personality and expectations. And at 37 I see no reason for you to rush into anything.
for me she must be a good go-go dancer.
she must love to smoke too and be a reall stunner in bed, no starfish.
and she must not ask more than 2,000 baht longtime.
The girl of my dreams, is the girl I met totally unexpected, from the moment I looked into her eyes I knew she is The One I’ve been looking for over 20 years.
Since I was a child I had a strong attraction for Asian girls, She is Thai, born & raised in Thailand, I always dreamed to meet her, the woman with long black hair, mesmerising black eyes colour, cherry sweet lips, she is kind, gentle, reliable, honest, smart, sensitive, cute, soft, has high class manners, pays attention to details, never lies – always telling the truth, and the most important of all she is a virgin(never had any kind of sexual intercourse).
(Note: As for my self I kept my self pure, even it was very tempting and very difficult sometimes, I managed to keep myself virgin, only for her, and she is only for me.)
Furthermore, I love the fact she does not use a lot of make up, but she is smart, she knows how to make herself irresistible when it comes to physical attraction. her outfit is very feminine, I never get tired of looking at her, I have no eyes for other women.
About her degrees, I never paid attention about this, nor about her social status, it was just my luck to find out that she finished the Masters and has a high social status.
Her English is very good as well, and I love when she speaks Thai, her voice is so sweet!
The love we have for each other is true love, even I was the one who loved her first, I know as fact she loves me more. We made and we are making big sacrifices for our relationship.
My advice for Thai girls: always be yourself and honest
My advice for Folks looking for Thai girls: Good Luck
I would like a woman that has a university degree or is working towards one. She should have a moderate grasp on the English language and if necessary, willing to learn more. She should like to take turns with me at cooking and trying different foods, not just Thai food. She should like to work and like to have a clean home. I would like her to be patient and understanding, especially in matters where there is a difference in culture.
She should be honest and faithful and be willing to speak with me about anything. I would like it if she had an open mind and not be set on just what she’s known her whole life. She should love family and be willing to do anything for our love. While looks are important to a certain degree, I don’t care as much about it. I say this because I’m no prize possession. I’m not exactly on the cover of GQ magazine. She should not judge me by looks alone and would see the goodness in my heart.
While money is important to a certain degree, it should not consume the relationship. There is nothing worse than someone who talks about money all the time. She should be very affectionate at least in private. Looks are of minor importance, but if I had a choice, I would say that she should be shorter than me. I’m 5’7″ so anywhere from 5′ to 5’6″ is fine. Her skin color doesn’t matter and neither does her hair length, although I do love long hair. She should not look anorexic nor be over weight. I like women who don’t put on much makeup. Less is more.
Those are my two cents.
when i was in Thailand i met a girl who wanted to marry with falang.
and she said looks doesnt matter as long as he have good heart. good job. and can take care of me.
but for me most imortant is also heart.
i met a lesbian thai girl but we fell in love.
what can i say.
the most important thing is that they are true to themselves. and dont changes for man
This depends entirely on a person’s view point – I’m not sure you can build an ideal woman for a foreigner. There are different types based on foreigner, but then you run the danger of stereotyping.
Example, many foreigners I know seem happy to take the first woman that shows an interest, such is their desperation to get a Thai girlfriend. Hardly a solid building block for a solid relationship.
Apologies if I sound a little cynical but I am only going on my experience and first hand stories from living in Thailand.
My wife is Thai, we met in England where she was studying, I don’t go for Thai/Asian women specifically which I think makes our relationship a healthy one.
Yes it does depend entirely on the people involved. What is right for me is not necessarily right for you or anyone else for that matter. No need to apologize for sounding cynical Jon, there are probably lots of reasons for feeling that way, depending on who you talk to.
At the end of the day each of us is different, but I do feel there are some common threads that run through many of the healthy Thai-Farang relationships. Maybe I am way off base with this thought, but I was trying to get some feedback for Pass to determine what some of these common threads might be.
Thanks for all the responses so far, I’m sure Pass will be glad to see this.
@ Richard – Very good points made. I hadn’t even thought about the approachability of Thai girls, that is a quality I have found is very appealing in the past. I wish I could get the opinion of a Thai guy about the openness issue, simply because I know that Thai culture is very repressed and it is considered a loss of face to let your feelings show in public. I think in some cases the girls are more open with farang simply because we are not Thai. When Golf and I first started dating she would typically hold in her feelings when she was upset until she got to the exploding point. Now, she is much more open in that she will let me know immediately if she is upset about something.
Difficult question as there needs to be that spark or x factor that is difficult to describe……….
I generally find Thai girls a lot more approachable, and open & honest about their feelings than Western girls. If they like you they’ll tell you and if you upset them you’ll know. There aren’t the games that can be with Western girls. I think it’s a really refreshing honesty.
I like reasonably slim built Thai girls that are a little bit shorter than me, say 5’3 to 5’6. You’ve got to be able to communicate for a relationship so it’s important that they can speak ok English and understand (or at least humours!) my Thai. Any girl needs to be interesting and intelligent, so I’d agree with the need for university education.
Dealing with the income disaparity (and there almost certainly will be a pretty big one) can be a problem. Some girls want to take advantage which doesn’t work in the long term.
Good Thai girls are also quite conservative and like to take things slower than us Western guys are normally used to. No public displays of affection etc… That requires a bit of understanding.
Most men are attracted to pretty girls, it’s just human nature. Thailand for some reason has an abundance of slim, petite and mesmerisingly beautiful women, so it’s a great place for any man who is shallow enough to believe that beauty is all you need.
Thai women do have hidden depths, and this is mostly a cultural thing.
For me, it startss with a look. When i lock eyes and see a hint of interest that is genuine, with the potential to grow into something more.
Then there is the famous LOS givaway smile. there’s the customer facing smile which can appear genuine to the novice, and there is that special, “only for you” smile.
If you get this far and you are aslo rewarded with some positive and open body language then you are halfway there.
This is when the problems begin. You know that you have found a spark and the next question is,; Do you want to start a raging bonfire accompanied by fireworks, or do you want to add a little solid fuel and go for a long but passionate burning fire that will keep you both warm for life?
If you are smitten at this point, it’s probably too late to ask if she has a large family and a sick buffalo somewhere up country.
Does she have a degree or any formal education? Does it matter when you look into those dark smoulderinbg eyes and gives you the special only for you smile?
Too late you are hooked.
Did you meet her in 7/11, the bank, the local tourist office or did you rescue her from flooded river?
It matters not because you can meet a girl who later becomes a freind and later still, becomes a lover. Alternatively you could be lucky and meet those eyes and that smile in the most unauspicious circumstances and know immediately that this is the one.
I guess i just got lucky.
I’m looking for pretty girl that will like to live in The U S A. It will be an agreement that she take care of me and I take care of her. Some English a must, willing to learn, willing to work, clean and honest. Sense of humor, sense of fairness, cooking not that important. I can do that. Understanding of different cultures from hers. Someone who can be exciting and also quiet. Hope this helps
For me they must have a goog heart. And be devoted to family and me. The looks, build education and job are important but as much as the heart. You being Thai you understand what I mean by good heart, unless you’ve been to Thailand alot most will not understand what it means. I’m very lucky that I’ve meet Kai on my second trip to the country we were made for each other lucky me.