Thai Girls – What you should know!
Don’t believe what you hear about Thai girls from promiscuous Thailand sex tourists!
If you’ve done any searching on the internet about Thailand and especially Thai girls you’ve likely found tons of stories, many of them written by western men. These stories are their first hand accounts of Thailand and Thai girls in particular, but you should keep in mind that most of these stories are coming from a small minority of the men visiting Thailand in search of sex. The Thai girls they meet and talk about are mostly prostitutes and bargirls working in popular red light districts like Nana Plaza, Patpong and Soi Cowboy. These Thai girls are a minority of the Thai female population and should not in anyway be confused with everyday good Thai girls.
When you read these stories you’ll get the impression that all Thai girls are just after your money and that they all lie, but please don’t believe these tales of despair. Consider the source…these are tourists looking for nothing but cheap sex. Even so, Thai prostitutes are often much more honest and (at least on the surface) caring than their western or Latin American counterparts.
Good Thai girls from normal society make outstanding girlfriends and wives. Thai culture puts an emphasis on women caring for their men and on family so marrying a Thai girl is the best move you can make in my opinion. And while Thai girls are typically shy about physical contact in public this is completely not true in private. Thai’s do not have most of the sexual hang-ups and taboos that westerners have and they can be very uninhibited in private.
So how can you meet nice Thai girls? Well, the obvious answer is to move to Thailand, learn some of the language and then simply talk to the girls you meet in your daily life just like you would in your own country. Many Thai girls are quite open to having a foreigner (farang) for a boyfriend or husband and you’ll find that you should have no problem whatsoever getting dates in this way.
If you don’t live in Thailand then I would like to suggest ThaiLoveLinks to you. Here you can meet many Thai girls who are interested in meeting foreigners for dating and marriage. I can personally recommend ThaiLoveLinks because I met my Thai wife Golf through this site. Even though I travel to Thailand frequently, because I don’t live there full time it was much easier to meet someone through this site.
If you choose to use ThaiLoveLinks and you need any help communicating with a girl feel free to contact us. Golf would be happy to do translations for you and for the girl. And if you end up meeting someone and getting married I would love to hear about it.
P.S. I wrote this almost 3 years ago and I haven’t changed my opinion one bit. In that time I have communicated with scores of guys that met a Thai girl online and many of them have continuing relationships and/or have gotten married and are now living happily with their soul mates. I know you may be skeptical and all I can say is that I was too at one time and you have to try it to believe it.
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I’m not Thai. I’m an Aussie girl, born & bred to Aussie parents. I wanted to get that out there so I could say the following without people assuming I’m a Thai woman defending my countrymen (or women in this case)…
ANYONE FROM ANYWHERE CAN BE A MONEY HUNGRY SCAMMING ARSEHOLE!
Not just women, not just Thais, anyone fom Anywhere!
So many people have made comments about being scammed by Thai women but I wonder if these same men have been screwed over by other people in their lives? Are they just unlucky or are the they kind of person who seems to attract con artists & mooches because they allow themselves to be a victim?
You know I read through these sites and the same mantra keeps being repeated as gospel’Don’t find your thai GF or wife in a bar.
It is not that simple. I was lied to and taken to the cleaners by a nice “normal” Thai girl who did not work in a gogo or massage.
I met her when she cut my hair.
Everyone seems to think that only prostitutes can rip you off and som nom nai!
A lot (A LOT) of Thai women are greedy and care only for money. I paid for everything all the time and it was still “more,more more!” from her.
Came back home to work -sent money to her every month and found out she cheated with a fellow countryman of mine when I was gone.
“Didn’t you tell him we were married?” I asked. “Yes..I just said Thai marriage though” she replied.
All the time,money,effort and everything else I put into the relationship gone because another guy came by and asked her out. He gives her more money than me apparently.
I am not old. I am actually younger than my wife by about 4 years.
Still trying to come to terms with the lies and deceit. It really messed my head up. A whole future and life in Thailand with kids one day gone bcause of a cheting wife and unscrupulous farang.
I hate people.
I see all sorts of comments both positive and negative about Thai girls and I’m not sure if I should be concerned or not.
I met my girlfriend in Pattaya, but not in a bar. She worked at the hotel I stayed in. When I first asked her on a date she said no but after asking another couple of times she said yes. We went to a nice restaurant, had a great time and we went our separate ways. We didn’t have sex, we swapped e-mail addresses and phone numbers and I returned home to Australia a couple of days later. From there we started corresponding and feelings developed from there. She never asked me for money but one time at that stage I sent her some simply because of the poor wage she was on and I felt sorry for her (maybe a mistake, i don’t know). I have since been back to Thailand twice and only had sex for the first time with her on my first visit staying with her (my second visit to Thailand). I had a great time staying at her apartment and during my last visit, she took me to visit her mother who lives in Prasat.
From my second visit onwards, I have been sending money to her every month. Not huge amounts but enough to cover her rent (which is amazingly cheap) and a little extra money. In total usually ten thousand baht per month. And not because she asked me to (maybe another mistake…).
We then decided that she should come to visit me here in Australia. The first time we tried to get her visa we failed. It seemed to be for a couple of reasons: firstly because she had to quit her job to come here as they wouldn’t give her holidays at the hotel; secondly because we found we hadn’t provided enough information. Our second attempt was successful and she came to visit. She was here for two months but left early because she missed her family and friends. We still had a great time together and she met my family and got along really well with them.
I’ve continued to send her money since but she still never asks for extra money or anything. She has not returned to work.
We always tell each other we love each other and she will always say it to me even if other people around her. She almost always answers her phone to me (at least 95% of the time). She generally stays at home with her family (she lives with her sister) and rarely goes out to bars or anything. Sometimes when she has friends visiting she will go out but this normally only happens once or maybe twice per month and she always seems to come home afterwards.
We have talked about marriage but she doesn’t push it and we have also talked about buying a house but she certainly doesn’t push that either.
I know that she has many friends, most of whom are Thai but some are also farangs. I have met one of them and don’t think there is cause for concern there. Recently she asked me if it was ok if she was still friends with her ex boyfriend because they still have a close relationship and still talk. She says they are not together and not having sex or anything and there is no chance of a romantic relationship re-developing. I’m not a jealous person but this seemed a little strange and rang some alarm bells.
Sometimes she seems to be a little hot and cold but I know she can be moody at times. Sometimes however, (although she always says she loves me) she doesn’t seem as interested in me, while other times she is really affectionate and loving in the way she talks to me.
Maybe it’s because of some of the things I read on the web about this subject but I guess I am starting to wonder if I am being taken for a ride like so many farangs I read about or do I actually have a good Thai girl? Grateful for any advice anyone has…
Be careful. girls in Pattaya can sell sex even if they work in hotel, or pharmacy or shop in a shopping centre. 1. I really think about why she needed go home after 2 months?? I had a girl here for 3 months, sure thay miss family, but they need a damn good reason ( mum sick, dad in car crash or something like this to abort a trip to another country with a man they really love!
Second, she want to stay in touch with old BF????
I mean this for me is enough to say bye, and stop send her money, I am sure you have something better to spend money on. She is playing you, maybe she look for a better looking man, or a man with more money, or she just don’t love you.
Either way you should walk away, If she really love you she stay with you all 3 months and she not talk with old BF. Is as simple as that!!!!!!
That’s a bit harsh mate who are you to say he’s being played?by the sounds of things your the one who has been played and your resentment towards Thai women is shining through.
Hey mate,don’t worry too much about her being hot and cold all girls are this way it’s pretty normal.ive been in a relationship with a Thai girl since 2005,yes the same one I met her when I was really young but we’ve lasted it’s been stop start and we’ve had our problems but she’s a great girl and our families seem to be happy on both sides.i think your a lucky guy it sounds like you’ve got a good girl so don’t read too much into what people are saying on here half of these guys are bar worms out for cheap fucks and meeting the wrong kind of women.as far as money goes send her some from time to time but be careful with it keep her on her toes.things have a funny way of working themselves out so what will be will be,all the best mate and good luck.
i cant beleve what u wrote here mate. Will u like ur GF to be good friend with her x Adam need to leave her and find honest gerl and dont think that i m bar worm, My wife is Thai and she is honest all this years Good thai gerl when have BF who helping with money will go back to live with family and wait for her BF or husband to come but some of them live doule life like Adams GF.All best to Adam from Melbourne
hey Adam
be careful is all I can say, Pattaya…..is a HUGE red flag regardless of anything most of the women either in or out of the bar are tainted – everyone knows what happens in Pattaya and women who go there to work in any industry are highly suspect. They know how to work the game and wont ask you for anything…these days the guys are giving up money without the girls asking so she may know just to keep her mouth shut and the money will come. My advice is to give nothing she survived before you…and who is to say she isn’t stringing many along all for 10k baht each or more a month?…..take it slow and make a note of everything – being friends with a ex? in Pattaya another huge red flag…
there are good thai girls all over thailand..NOT in the bar scene or areas, definitely not in Pattaya!
thousands and thousands of horror stories so keep your huard up ALWAYS, love is not the same in Thailand as it is displayed by westerners, many cultural differences…..I’ve seen women fleece a guy broke and move on to another the next day and he thought she loved him! never give out more money than you can part with…also would you buy a girl you were dating in Aussie land a house? probably not…would you pay her anything monthly? again likely no…..so try not to act a fool while in Thailand and keep your wits…..if she sticks around when you are not doling out money or promising houses then she might just be a keeper….otherwise I read many red flags in your submission to be comfortable, but as I have learned many men dont seem to listen and get hypnotized by thai pussy. good luck!
So what your saying if a girl has dark skin she’s not actually Thai thats why prostitution is excused,what a load bull.in my eyes the real Thai people are the issan people who come from humble backgrounds and stay true to tradition.prostitution has nothing to do with skin color it’s a part of the thai economy wether you like it or not!
I can’t believe how stupid most western guys are?
Do you do the same things in your country with money and women?
Why would you send money to anyone you just met on the internet?
These women have multiple men sending them money….none has even met the girl yet and even if you have most don’t know she’s still online! with many profiles on all the internet dating sites…it’s called making money without working! and it works!
many western men…most unattractive unable to find love in the west tourn to asian countries…not all but a good percent get fleeced for thousands of dollars! its all over the internet and well known…many many bar girls are online with fake personas and personalities all to get you to send money like the rest.
NEVER give out any money until you meet and know someone personally just like the west….NEVER or it will end badly, seriously do you think sending some emails makes you know some one? these girls know you are desperate and gullable.
Take your time, if someone pressures you for money, loans etc its a HUGE red flag….trust your gut and you can’t go wrong, want to test a girl – tell her flat out NO and if she packs up to the next target then you have your answer.
Don’t be one of the thousands of victims from TLL or other asian dating sites, it’s on the scale of Nigerian scams.
If you want a serious Asian relationship your going to have to go in country meet and get to know a girl just like we do in the west.
Well back in Bangkok right now, with Po, loving it, just remember people to not eat in the super clean American places, eat like a Thai, the place may have a dirt floor, and fly everywhere, LOL but the food is the best, remember Padthai is only one dish here LMAO, TRY THE BLOOD SOUP, it’s great, say to the girl “Send Me Mo” thats blood soup, and if you don’t like hot or very spicy food, then say “My Pick” thats Thai for not spicy LOL, no joke, it really sounds that way LOL Send me mo my pick LOL, and the Pork shoulder with Chinese 5 spice and rice is great too, but I live off the blood soup LOL I LOVE IT! and if your in BKK and need a low cost place, live with the Thai’s, in a area like Saimai, on the north side of Bangkok, it is a very nice place to live, I am at Soi 43 in a New building, here for 3 months, and only paying $400total, and I am the first to live in this apartment, and it comes with a bed, dresser, tables, all, very kool area here, food is dirt cheap, as it is priced for Thai’s, and it may look rough here, but the people are VERY nice here.
I don’t understand how many of you think that every thai girl working in a bar is a bad girl and every one who don’t is a good girl.
You think that a good girl is a virgin? An angel which never been touch and only do good things all day long and in night time she do nothing at all except sleeps, alone of course. Thai girls are just like everyone else, some good some not so good.
Most falang have problem because they arrive in Thailand, and go straight to bad area where bar girl work, fall in love with Thailand hooker and marry with her? then ask why they find trouble?
If I go to western country, I do not get off plane and go to area of hooker, marry her then ask why I have no money left?
Western man not marry hooker in his own country, but decide he want to marry hooker in Thailand?
30 million woman in Thailand not hooker so many to meet and have good relationship and life with….some reason the falang want to meet and marry hooker only? then do not ask why you have much trouble, hooker here and in west no different.
i met my us husband through internet dating site i had hundreds of men wanting to meet me i think a lot were only looking for only sex or cam shows. thai lady does not want this type of man please treat thai women as ladies not as sex objects if you do you will meet many thai ladies who will want to be with you and your decision then is which one.
warning signs of being played by a thai girl either from a bar or online.
- relationships moving too quickly
- lies, any of them
- requests for money, you know I need $$$ for this or that.
- requests for a HUGE sin sot.
- family members meddling relationship.
good luck, don’t ignore the warning your gut gives you either…if any of the above happens relax talk it over with someone outside the relationship and make a informed decision. Always google search your thai girlfriend to make sure she is NOT on hundreds of dating sites at the same time still chatting up hundreds of guys you maybe just 1 if many being fleeced. Also if you are in Thailand with her take a look at her mobile phone while she is in the shower and take a look at the contacts, mobile phones are all precious to Thai hunnies and they guard them with their lives.
more warning signs of a bad thai relationship:
- requests for you to build a house
- any large money requests, and opening bank accounts (use your name only)
- lending money to family members
- check her mobile phone often, also does it ring all night?
- google search her name to verify multiple dating site accounts, are they still active?
be careful, you wouldn’t do half the things your doing in Thailand in a western relationship so use your head and you will be fine.
if you are a good victim and easy mark to be scammed, you will be….I have seen many western men here penniless once their tee rak girlfriend has removed every last cent from falang boyfriend only to move onto the next one on the dating websites.
BE CAREFULL
Hello!
I have my girl in my country now. In Europe.
She is nice, but it is always in my head that she want more things but maybe she want to use me as her gateway out of Thailand and fin a new man after 4 years when she can stay legally here.
Thai girls are nice, but they are not shy about ask for money. Western men find this rude and irritating.
Thai girls want men to understand them and their culture, but they need know they need understand their man and his culture too.
I am happy and we are fine, but I am not sure, 3 months with her tell me much, I hope we will be happy but maybe I just send her back home.
Only time will tell.
Is nice that people show warning signs in here, but remember there is nice Thai girls too.
Be respectful and writ good than we all can learn.
For me I learn a lot from this site, but some write things that makes men look like idiots too, That is not good;)
Hello everybody.
I have as you all know a thai girlfriend. Te paln is that we marry in end of june this year.
But now she is in my home on a tourist visa. She go back i 3 weeks. So far we had a nice time, but she have been fighting me about sin sod.
She want me to pay 300.000 bath, and I get 150.000 bath back. I think 50.000 for pay her school money is ok. But that her mum keep 100.000 bath is to me ridiculus.
But she angry so much when I try tak with her.
In all other things she is nice. She want to save money and buy things cheap in Thailand.
So she is so good in so many ways. She has a Bachelor degree from University in Bangkok.
She brought me toher job before she came here, and I met her friends and family.
Honest her mum only care for her daughter be happy not for money.
But my girl want to give money to her mum.
To me I am not sure if I want to marry her because of this, I have not decided yet, but I ask for advice.
Not reply all thai girls only want money please.
Give a good reply and ask if you need know more.
Hi Ketil…
For Thai culture, men have to pay for women family when you want to marry their daughter (we called Sin Sod). Sometimes, how much of money can show how much you want the girl and how much you respect her and her family (Not every family think like this).
Hello.
I had a Thai girl.
She was from south, and had good job in BKK and university degree.
But she wanted to marry quick, she asked for money, and she asked for big sin sod, and more money.
She lied too, and lied again, and again.
She wanted me to fix her house quick, and she was on internet too much.
I liked her so I brought her to my homecountry, after 6 weeks I felt I was finish with her. She stayed and went back happy as can be, only to read an e-mail from me that her little fairytale was over. I not talk with her now.
But she not give up, she tell me she love me, she need me, and not want my money.
But when she was here she fought about prenup, and sin sod and gold, and asked for money to daughter og her cousin.
She used her money on her family before come here, so now she not have much. But yes even the sweetest girl can be a gold digger.
I see it and I let her go, others get ripped off. It is sad that people not see this. But you need take care and open your eyes than you see the signs.
i did not buy much for her, And I had fun here for 3 months, and she got a nice holliday. That’s it. I not regret it, but I say no in time;)
Anyway, thanks for adwice in here;)
Met my Thai girlfriend back in 2005 when I was 19 years old,she was 21 a couple of years older than me.I fell in love with her instantly she had the cutest little smile I had ever seen.After nearly 7 years,7 trips to (hailand and 2 or 3 different western gfs in between.I have come to the conclusion that she’s the only one for me.I went through periods of doubt and resentment listening to other peoples opinions but she proves them wrong time and time again.She’s the most loving and caring girl I have ever known and one of the most beautiful,I have spent a lot of time living with her and her family and I’ve got the utmost respect for them,they are the true meaning of the wors family.Right now she is 4 months pregnant with my child and I am in Australia trying to make ends meet working as an electrician.People talk about hidden agendas and all these other things but the way I see it is…. we are just two people who care about eachother she just happens to be Thai.
you are too young to know what your doing and you are being played – good luck sucker!
You must have plenty experience on the matter,probably another lonely 60 year old with erection problems hating on us young guys for being able to keep our Thai women happy.Sorry you feel the need for resentment….
Yes your right, he is a lonely old man, with a lot of hate in him, I myself am 35, and I love my Thai Wife, and my wife has a HUGE sex drive LOL, even at 35 I find it hard to keep up LOL, but not soft problems here LOL, but Thai girls get a bad name from all the dumb western men that come here and go right to Soi Cowboy or NANA, looking for love LOL, they are hookers people, not good thai girls LOL, STOP MARRYING HOOKERS!!!!! LOL, then the real Thai girl will not get a bad name LOL
I’m 33 yr old californian, I met my thai girlfriend accrossed the street from where I work,, I asked her out after about 3 weeks of eating there and she said no, I was persistent.
After dating for a short while she lets me know she is a thai-goodgirl sheltered life with controlling parents already has associates and bachelors is here persuing her masters.
She dated a man for 3 years with plan to marry and he showed up on her birthday to tell her he doesnt love her anymore. Claiming she never had sex but decided to have with me 4 months after dating, her apptitude is impressive for an inexperienced mate. She already had a trip home planned home and invited me which I said yes to but shortly after thinking about my money situation I declined…not knowing what it meant to her. We love eachother, but she doesnt want to plan marriage for fear of her last situation…sometimes is probably harmlessly distant due to her thai customs which is questionable to me….low affectiom display is frustrating sometimes. Doesnt want to know how much I make …loves my 3 yr old son everything seems too good to be true, is it? Also she is going home after 5 yr school visa which is 3 1/2 more years…i feel like there isnt enough hime….
Any and all thoughts are welcome!!!
WELL, sounds like you may have found a good Thai girl, most Thai girls that go for masters are good family girls, you should go to Thailand and meet her family, this is SUPER important in Thai Culture, as for her public displays of affection, this is normal in Thai culture, a good Thai lady does not kiss in public, and for the most part does not drink too, but in this day and age more and more are drinking, but, meeting her family is very high on the list for a Thai girl, and her family has say over you and her being married, did you know that? and there is a Dowry for most Thai girls, the family will let you know about, to Americans this is a shock, as we look at it the wrong way, we view it a buying a wife, but if you see from the parents view, this custom is to see if the American can afford to care for there little girl, and yes good Thai girls are treated as little girls by there family until married, and viewed that way too, if I was you I would start reading 2 hours a day 5 days a week after work, on Thai customs, and American Thai relationships, as there is so much for you to learn, and a big thing to a Thai girl and her family, a thing that shows you do love her, is if you take the time to start learning her language, this is huge to them, so go buy Rosetta Stone, I am a 34 year old American in Florida, with a Half Thai, Half Chinese Wife, she was born and raised in Thailand, and I am telling you JUST BE SUPER HAPPY SHE HAS A THAI FATHER LOL and not a Chinese father LOL, Thai father much ez’er LOL Chinese father VERY hard to make happy LOL, as for your Dowry to marry her, that can be as low as $1500, and up, most around $3500-$5000, but the parent really pay that back with the wedding, so just view it as that, and a little trick, that will win the hearts of the whole family, is if the father makes the Dowry $3000, give them $4000, the higher the Dowry, the more respect the family gets from all around them, and the fact you would be willing to raise the Dowry asked is huge in Thai culture as very big respect for her family, and it is saying they did a very good job raising her. as for the sex LOL well I just have to say, I think Thai’s make love with there soul, NOT LIKE AMERICANS, they don’t hold anything back, if she loves you, she will be so into it, you will be shocked, and seem like a pro LOL, but this is normal for a Thai girl, and this fact is very well known to anyone who has ever been with a Thai. but there are so many things you need to learn about Thai Culture first, if you have 1.5 years to get to know her, that is more then you will need LOL, I would have married my wife before one year if her family would say yes LOL, she sounds like a good girl, so now the next step is to go to Thailand with her, meet her family, if you can try to stay for the full 3 month visa, you can find very nice 1 bedroom apartments in BKK=Bangkok for $400 for 3 months rent, yep that cheap, add power and water maybe $100 more, after the biggest bill Air fare, from Florida $1800 round trip, but I bet much lower for you being in CAL. your about 3000 miles closer then I am LOL, bring $2000 with you and that is all you will need for 3 months in Thailand, I myself plan air fare plus $5000, but I like to travel all over Thailand when I am there, and I go to Vietnam and Singapore and others too so I bring more LOL, but $2000 will do, if you don’t go to crazy, $5000 is very good, remember one thing, Thailand is 30% less then here, and I can spend $3-4 a day on food there 3 meals a day LOL, but if I eat a big breakfast =$.50 street food, or dine in nice place, $1-$1.30 tops, Lunch $1.20-$1.50 Street food, or dine in $2-$2.75, Dinner, $2 street, or big lobster indoor meal with beef and shrimp $3.50-$5, yep, you can find very high end places there to spend, $50 a meal for dinner, but do you really need it, LOL Thailand is full of good food EVERYWHERE, one of the things I love most about Thailand is the food, and the HUGE variety to be found there, you will see fruits you never heard of as well as vegetables, and meats, and NO there is no Dog or Cat LOL, but if you want to try Dog or cat just go to Vietnam or China LOL, the Thai’s are VERY happy people, they call it the land of smiles for a reason, and I think EVERY AMERICAN should go there in there life, I have been all over the world, and Thailand I must say is one of the best places to visit in the world, as for your girl, if you want a true 50/50 partner in life, you got a great deal right now, grab this one, go meet her family, and live in her culture for a bit, see what your getting, Thai women as many American men are finding out make the best wife, and loving partner in life, as long as you don’t get a bar girl LOL thats the trick LOL, but yours does NOT sound like a bad girl LOL. open your mind, and do think you know anything, things you come to think is normal ways a women will treat her man does not happen with Thai women, they beat 99% of American women hands down, and American women get mad about this, and they write is off to we want a submissive wife, but really we want a partner in life that is true, and will stand by us, as our wife, and Thai women have that and more, and yes, the sex is really good too LOL, and there beauty is undeniable, and They Love Americans, as Thai men are SUPER Controlling and cheat all the time,that is why Thai women hold the record for the most male member removals in the world LOL, and trust me they take pride in that LOL, so don’t cheat LOL, and they don’t just cut it, they cook it and feed it to the dog LOL
look it up LOL I am not joking LOL.
but they are Beautiful, Smart, Sweet, Loving, and if you want to get up in life this is the wife to help you get there, but remember on thing, a good Thai girl is not a gold digger, BUT, if you and her have a baby, and you show her you can not support her and the baby, MANY Thai women, NOT all but many will be gone fast, this is there rule, as to them the baby ALWAYS comes first, and to me I love that about them, and they are VERY strong mothers, and very good at keeping there kids in line. Thai women go on feelings, so she will mind her feelings with you, if your not going to commit she will see that, you lucky you met her here and she has so much time here with you, and your very lucky she slept with you in only 4 months, so you way ahead already, now take the trip to meet her family, as for the Dowry, some times these days the family will not ask for one if your American, but her girlfriends will all love you, and be super nice to you, BUT maybe, and I say MAYBE, her Thai guy friends may not be nice, they will not say anything or be mean, they just will not come to be nice, they will try to stay away, as many Thai men I have seen are SUPER jealous of Thai girls with American men, Thai men are for the most part very shy with women, and so are Thai girls, so they may like her but never get the balls to make a move on her, and they see Thai women will be with a white American so fast and so EZ, so they hate that you can have almost ANY Thai girl you want, BUT they can’t, and they hate you for that, but not to worry, she will straighten then out. but never try to come between her and her family, and she will not with you I am sure, but she will want to meet your mother very much, as to a Asian girl, the Mother inlaw is HUGE, many Asian mother in laws are super hard on the new wife LOL, so she will have great fear of this with yours, so let her meet and spend time with her, be very mindful of there relationship, I don;t know your mother, but try to make sure there relationship is a good one. and as for you and her father, well, she is beg for you to him if she really loves you, but you need to know some of there culture, and so yourself to be VERY respectful of her father, you need to understand Thai culture, and if she is Buddhist, I would buy a book on (((THAI))) Buddhism if I was you, I myself am a White American Buddhist so I was super lucky for that as my Wife’s Chinese father is almost a monk, LOL and he never would have let her marry a non Buddhist LOL so Buddha was smiling on us LOL, but you will need to know these things, as well as ask her every question you can think of, about how you plan to raise you kids, make sure your clear, as the things you think are universal are NOT, there are many things they view that we do and and visa versa, so for a cross cultural relationship to work is UNDERSTANDING, PATIENCE, RESPECT, AND MOST OF ALL COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION!!! this is the most Important in ANY relationship, but more so with a cross cultural relationship. I hope all works out, if you have questions you can always ask me I will help you all I can. as I know how hard it can be, but in the end she is worth it, trust me. YOUR A LUCKY MAN!
I’m falling in love with a Thai girl, I’m met her in a night club in Phuket, she is absolutely stunning, she was telling me stories of her ex and how he broke her heart, now I think I just promised to marry her some day and she told me she couldnt take another brake up, I don’t what to do cos I actually like her and she said she didn’t care about money she just wants to be with someone that makes her happy. She speak Thai, English, french and leio, and said she wants to go back to school. Is it going to end bad if I persue this relationship.
Il also add she didn’t have much makeup on, she did have a fish tatto on her shoulder and a dragon on the Leg And a belly button piercing
Im not that bad a looking guy, I work out, I’m 26 she’s 25, She tells me she has other guys ask her to come home with them every Night she goes out but doesn’t because she doesnt like them she broke up with her ex and just wants to be happy with some one and that’s me
So is this one of the new age Thai girls that is really looking for love or should I run.
(“night club in Phuket night club in Phuket”) that right there tells me 99% she is a working girl, trying to get her green card from you, there are no normal good girls in Phuket night clubs, or bars, they are hookers, but I know how you guys need so much proof, so here is your trick, go buy a cheap laptop, $300-$500 in the long run this computer will save you $1000′s, go get a program that records all the IM’s, and emails that come and go from the computer, and also tracks the web sites she visits, there are many of these programs out there now, she will not know it is on the computer, then give it to her, after a week or more, tell her you need to use it tomorrow, tell her your computer is giving you problems, so she will delete everything, SHE THINKS LOL, then when she gives you the computer to use, you can download the info the program saved, buy a program with a password on it too, then you can view all her emails, IM’s messages, and websites she uses, and be ready to see she talks to many other men, from all over the world, trying to get money and green cards, and with the websites you may just find her posting adds on dating sites, and offering services to men on CL or other sites, and maybe even talking about you to her friends. OR you may find you are a super lucky man, who found the one girl in Phuket that night that was not a hooker.
yes run!
she is obviously a bat girl, phuket is full of them….do your homework kid before you end up penniless and crying for your mom!
Greg has some good advice if your obsessed with the lady.
Okay. Thai girls are lovely. I have ever sex with thai girls. Funnn! sexy!
What a great blog you have here. Lots of great info on Thai ladies and what people think. But I have noticed many many Thai women go for men that are older. And man farang want a Thai women that is much younger than them. However for me it is the opposite. I have met a beautiful Thai woman who is 6 years older than me. i am 28 and she is 34. It seems I am doing the complete opposite of many that are with Thai women much younger than them. Is this really that unusual that I am choosing to date an older thai and that an older Thai woman would be interested in a younger man?
I have to agree, most normal thai women are great and love to take care of their man. I would say not to rush into anything.
I met a nice Thai girl online from the north, we chatted and I came up to see here and she was wonderful….always trying to take care of me, introduced me to the family and had her own money.
During my stay….I googled her name and up came a dating site that she was still registered to, I signed up and could see that she was online everday when at work. Maybe killing boredom? maybe scouting a better pick? not sure…all I know is she had over 200 male friends lol!
I am not upset because I have not spent anything on her other than doing some activities and dinner etc…the sex has been daily and free..lol
I was sad to find out this info because from all appearences she was happy with me and knowing this info I asked her if she was, BUT knowing she has been online daily chatting it up with guys is not a good sign regardless.
So I encourage everyone to do a google search etc, I must also say she never lied to me about anything and I haven’t asked if she has still been on dating sites…I thought that would be a given.
Anyways once my trip is over I plan on writing her off and trying to find someone that is loyal?
While it is true that a “Farangi” or western man can fetch a Thai GF or wife quite easily,because most of the Thais simply worship the white Western/European people & the doors of opportunities open without any hindrance for them..it is not true & easy for Asian (non white,non Western) men to even get a Thai girl friend or wife,either being there or via online dating sites.They despise the Asian foreigners!
@ Asian Man
While this may generally be true, I did not find any negative response from Thai girls I have dated in the past. On the other hand I am now in love with a twenty year old Thai girl (non-bargirl) and will soon be relocating from UK to the LOS.
@Asian Guy:That proves my point.You are from UK & that “tag” is more than enough to woo a Thai girl.If it was “Dhaka”,”Jullundhar” or “Sialkot” the case would be different.
Hi Steve and everybody in here.
I am a guy from Norway 36 years of age. I have been in Thailand several times. Many now think I am a sex tourist like many. But no. First time I was there I travelled around the world with my girlfriend who later became my wife. 2. Time there was with her too. 3. time I went with a friend and his thai wife.
Life in thailand has changed since I was there first time in 1999. Back than I saw farang men with thai girls and new what was going on. But last year when I was there it was really hard to say, was the farang walking with his bar girl or was it his dougther with a thai woman??? Predjudice about this still lives.
Leha for example think that we who like thai woman are men who likes sex and an obeying woman. For gods sake, grow up!!!!!!!! Thai women are firce, the now how to take back and they can fight as hell too. But nevertheless, they are more interested in having a happy family then western women.
Western women bitch about housework, kids, work, and complain about their hub wanting sex. What on earth is nice about that????
Leah gave the impression that men more or less buy these thai women for marriage or to be their girlfriends. I have to ask her, havent you ever been with a bloke that earned more than you, did he never pay for a larger share of the house, or groceries, or clothes for you?? Probably more too because western women really knows how to demand things. Just look ay various dating sites, the write for example, if you are a man who do this, or don’t have this don’t bother to contact me. Hell I wouldent even think of contacting them. Fat chicks who think they are sexy, and demand money, how is that in any way better than paying for a good time in BKK or Pattaya???
I was in TLL last year and yes I met my fair share of scammers and prostitues there. But a few questions give them away. Sick mother, brother in motorbike accident, if they send you picture in bikini, if they talk about sex.
All this are signs of you met the wrong woman.
I was in there again this year, and I found a girl I’m gona meet in october. She is honest, nice, and very shy. I have spoken with her friend too, and she has spoken to a few friends of mine who is married to thai women.
She is from south of thailand, but works in BKK. She have shown me her work, and I trust her so far. So this time TLL worked it seems.
But if you think pages like match.com is better, or other pages, just try them and waste time and money.
In TLL many girls actually work, TLL is free for thai women, but men must pay.
Considering the difference in wages and currency this is no problem. But be aware, girls in Thailand sit in there for fun too.
My view of thai women are that they tend to want to make their man happy, which is a bit different from western women. They also like to spend time with their kids, western women like to work, go out with friends, and enjoy life more.
I am not looking for a slave to housework or a sexdoll. I am looking for a woman just like I have looked for women in Norway. But I have found a girl I really like. should it really matter that she is from Thailand?????
I can not be sure that my future will be good with her if we click or with a western woman, but that is tha chance everybody must take. I am prepared to take that chance and see where it leads me. Maybe next year I write here and use the term us.
Anyway, be respectful for people married to thai women, they are more about love now than before. But some olde prdjudice still remains. I am 36 thai girl I have met is 28. 8 years difference. I think that is ok.
And at last, I know it is usual to pay for the wedding in Thailand, but from what I have heard it can be more expensive in Isaan area, because they like to have a big party at weddings. In south weddings often can be smaller. And you are alloud to say to the girl you marry this is our budget, if you go over this amount no one can pay for it;) Thai people when marry usually never have 150 guests that they buy food and alkohol for. But if farang pay is ok;)
Use your head, not only your dick, than things work out quite nice;)
Anyway, I go back this year and I really look forward to it.
I have seen hat yai,Phuket, Bangkok, Surat thani, Pattaya, Buriram so far. But thinking of Hua hin this time. Anyone who has any tips?? Or cha am??? What is best of theese two??
Great site, Steve, keep on doing the good work.
Nedless to sy I am divorsed now, my exwife cleaned me out real good so don’t say only thai woman wants money, I can sure as hell confirm that western women want money too.
Hi Ketil,
Great post and ideas here. I know there are still many misconceptions regarding Thais and especially Thai/foreigner relationships. Hopefully some people come here and read a bit and learn all is not like the stereotypes. Things are changing very rapidly in Thailand and I think 10 years from now people will find that Thailand is no longer what it once was. The influx of foreign capital, the influence of the internet and the more open minds of younger Thais is sure to guarantee this. Thanks for the compliment on my site and for what it’s worth I would recommend Hua Hin over Cha-Am, simply because there is more to do in Hua Hin.
Hi Steve.
Honestly I have looked more at Hua hin, but the beach looked nicer in cha am.And I am a sucker for a nice beach.
I agree with you the changes you are mentioning, but I think there is one really important comment to add. I see more thai women and western man couples now and they are more even when it comes to age. 12 years ago a big age difference was more common. Today Thai women even put in TLL that they are not intersted in men over 40 years for example. They too have become more aware that they can get a younger more handsome guy.
So these old stereotypes that still lives on in some jalous feminist woman, who usuallyare too ugly or demanding or both, yes they feel angry when they see a western man with a thai woman. But I have a questio for the women in here, do you feel angry when you see a western man with a black woman???
In Europe we have a big problem withwomen / girls from Nigeria. And we have a lot of Russians too. Is this better because they are white in skin colour???
Still the age difference is there, and those girls are often less honest.
So girls, obviusly some of you have a grudge against men, but does that hurt us or you??? Think about that.
For me all I can say is that I have always liked Asian girls. They are petite, elegant, feminine, and I think women should take care of them selves more in the west.
Yes Hua Hin, and yes Steve your very right, it is changing fast there, and the women are too.
Hi, I am Wayne, this is my first time commenting here, I myself am with a Thai woman. she is English teacher in BKK, she is beautiful, smart, funny, sexy, sweet, all in one, I spent many years dating American women, and one big thing I have learned is that the chance of meeting a good American girl is very slim, I am in Florida, but I have been all over the USA, and I find that with American Women it is all about them, and the man is ALWAYS #2, but in Asia “Thailand” the man is #1, I don’t want to be #1, I want to be 50/50 with my wife, and I find 90% of Thai women love that about American men, yes some American men are going to Thailand to find a slave wife, or just sex, I for one don’t think like that, I found Thailand women great, if you stay away from the bar girls, if you look for a good thai girl they are not that hard to find, I found the best one so sorry to all you other guys LOL, My Po is all I could ever dream of, I will marry her soon I hope as long as her family all says yes, my only worry is her father, as I feel he wants asian man for her, but I am Buddhist, so I think I will be lucky, she is all I have ever wanted in my life, it is like she was made for me mind and body all, we have been talking with each other for 2 years now, we met on Facebook LOL ya funny huh, not even a dating site LOL, but I know we are right for eachother, and I hope if all goes right by next year this time we will be married:) guys I tell you this, I know many of you are feeling like I was, dating American women, you feel like your nothing, your just a work horse for them, to give them all they want and they do very little for you, I know not all American women are like this, but I would say that I have met 97% are, and in Thailand 15-20% tops, so as you can see your odds are so much better to thailand to meet a good wife and have REAL love, a love that many of you have never had before, one that does not have the hangups that American women do, we all know that this is the truth, yes most asian women seem a world away, and so hard to talk too as we don;t know how to act with them, a asian women not in America don’t go for the same lines we use in America, guys just fall back to how your mother told you how to me a respectful man, no games, no bull, just tell them the truth, and show your true feelings, and the Thai girl will connect with you, if you did the same with American women, you know they would just laugh at you and use it to hurt you 90% of the time. don’t fear the unknown Asian girl, she is sweet, truth me, just STAY AWAY FROM THE BAR GIRLS!!!!!.
I am 34, she is 22, but the way her mind works is like a 35 year old American woman, thats also a big plus with Asian girls, they act older then they are but they also know how to be HAPPY, and have fun like they are 20, we Americans have forgoten how to be happy I think, Thai’s smaile alot, and they happy people, we can learn from them, I think we have forgoten to be happy in life.
I hope you all find your love, and happiness, I know I did.
<3
I PICKED UP THE ARTICLE I WILL BE QUOTING NOW AND I AM SURE IT WILL UNLEASH A STORM ESPECIALLY BY MOST FEMALE READERS. SO BE IT.
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American/European women offer a sandwich of shit to their husband and then become furious when he goes somewhere else to eat.
American/European women make a big pre-marital show to impress the man so that he will think that she is the love of his life forever and ever. However, the moment he signs the marriage papers the comedy is over: they get fat, have a bad temper, then make a fool of you by having an affair, then bleed you dry and at the end they fuck you in the divorce court.
Latin and Asian women make much better wives than American/European women.
An American/European woman has several fundamental problems that will never go away and that will get much worse a few years after she is married:
1. Her inherent anti-male bias and pre-occupation with fairness that was drilled into her at high school, college, and through the media. Her constant confrontations and trying to prove herself and to make a point.
2. Her self-centeredness, her ridiculously high expectations, her sense of entitlement, her high-maintenance, superficial, and stuck up attitude, her snootiness and her sense of superiority. This “princess” syndrome means that she will always think that she is better than you, and that she deserves and she is entitled to whatever she wants from you.
3. Her general mental instability and psychological disorders.
4. Her using sex as a weapon and reward to get things.
Latin& Asian women generally don’t have any of these problems. Marrying an American/European woman simply does not make sense. The ONLY reason men stay with American/European women is because they did not have enough exposure to Latin or Asian women. Any man who spent a few months in Latin America or Asia will not even look at American/European women again.
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mean way to say it, but very true.
I agree totally. Ive met some absolutely wonderful Thai women during my first trip to Thailand. Compared with the Westernised/Australia women their attitutde is fantastic. They are not up themselves at all. “Western” women call this submissive, and yet they expect men to be submissive to them all in the same breath. This is because they really just want to have control.
Its is not in any persons nature to be submissive to someone else, we are all free. With a Thai women I feel the relationship is fair and botht parties treat each other well. Ive been married twice now to Western Women, I know how they work and how they think. Mostly, obsessed with control they want to take on the male role. Ive even been addressed by them as “mate” – the type of term that men usually use toward men. So now (mentally) I just treat them as males with vagianas (MWV). I say “hi mate” back to them, slap them on the back etc. I like women to be soft, gentle, caring and kind. I have male friends, they are strong, healthy, supportive and independent. I like to socialise with them. But I really can’t see any use for these MWVs.
MWV’s…LMAO mate!
@ point 1. & 3. sad, but true.
this is what the western way of life do with us. disrupted familys, drug abuse and all that stuff. the aftermath of the modern world. horrible
This good girl/bad girl debate in Thailand bothers me a bit. I met “bad” girls and I met “good” girls in Thailand. By my standards anyway. And it had nothing to do with the fact that they were working in bars or not.
ha,ha,ha,I have a good thai girl freind but her sisters and freinds from buriram told her why you stay with him,he give you little money every month.She told them i dont care about money.But you know what they think about us.ATM machine with 2 legs.Not every thai ladys but alots.
I think many people are getting hung up on this “thai girl/thai woman” thing. Its just semantics, not meant to be demeaning or patronising. I am 56 and i call any woman 56 or younger by the title “girl” or “girls”, even when talking with them. Seems to be no problem, older ones even like it. Get over it, it’s just a friendly term of endearment. Nothing else. In Australia, we often use other terms such as “shielas, chicks, birds, babes .. etc”, which can be considered demeaning. I think “girls” is much nicer. (but use women if you prefer)
About this thing of men wanting thai women because they are subservient and look after their men, this is utter nonsense, you can hire a paid maid for that! This is often perpetuated by ill informed men and women, and i suspect maybe by women (and men) who may be jealous and realise that “equality of the sexes” has gone past reasonableness in the West. We want a partner! Thai women are beautiful, and who doesnt want a beautiful partner? Thai women certainly have very strong individual personalities, but they dont confront you with it (unless extremely provoked). Thai women generally are very capable at managing business, finances, relationships, family and life in general. They do this in a determined but gentle non confronting way. We love them for this skill. Believe me, life can be much more difficult in Thailand than Australia. But they manage, where as we in the West would be looking for government hand outs. Be happy to help them when you can. We can afford to be charitable! Thais have genuine care for life, human beings, nature and particular care for their families, partners and friends. Perhaps the buddhist phylosophy has a lot to do with this. Thailand is a beautiful country and thais are beautiful people, women and men. Why wouldnt we be attracted to this vibrant country and these beautifully natured people?? Personaly, i love the beauty, the inner strength and the lovely nature of the Thai people.
I have a lovely thai gf, with a beautiful young family, for almost 3 years now, who i am very proud of. I have been visiting thailand regularly for many years. But i avoid tourist haunts such as Pattaya, Phuket and “sleazy” areas of Bangkok. In Thailand, you will get what you look for.
I am not naive enough to think all thais are wonderful. Some thai women are “bitches” as are some women in every country, some thai men are “bastards” as are some men in every country. You need to use your comonsense as a filter. There are good and bad in every country. I know, I have travelled and lived in many countries.
Life is an adventure, get into it!
Hi everyone here,
Here is really interesting toppic. I am Pass (Thai girl and growing enough to be Thai woman
), I wrote in Steve before in “Why do thai girl marry old foreigner” and some topics.
When I read here , some comments then I start to write again. Before when I wrote in Steve I divorced and have relation with some western guy but not work. From that to at this moment , now I have relationship with a German guy who is working and living in Thailand. He is 41 years old. He is normal guy. He is an orphan no familly.He did bad bad things in life before but one day he had fight and injured then stay in hospital long time, everyone think he death but just himself that know he is still alive. After the awake in tell him self, bad life before is not make him happy and have nothing so he start to learn and finally got degreed but not easy he had to work extra alots for money. Hard life. He worked for some company and one day he saw discovery chanel and See Bangkok Thailand , that cheap , easy for sex and beautiful girls. He thought that’s what I want. Then he left his work and come to Thailland. When he arrived to Airport (20 years ago) he asked to Taxi driver , show me Thailand. Can you guessing where Taxi drive took him? Yeap Phatpong, Steve I know you know that place. Phatpong is the place of bargirl. He spent his time for sex , drink and party till no money. Then he start find work. Lucky he got good work. After 20 years here his think of Thiland and life was changed. He love Thailand and our king. He decided to die here. He donation for an orphan and foundatin , he go to temple and talk to one’s father of temple. I met him by Matchmaker we both first date for that. Alrady a year we know , he asked me to marry since January this year, he said “I can see I marry you in the next 2 years, why don’t u marry me , have kids and make me happy, that u have to do, this position is available. See this is a proposal for marry? No romance. I don’t accept to marry him , I think for marry need to learn eachother. So we keep the relation and see what will heppen. Now aday we meet and our relation more close and warm. But you know this is a strenght guy no romance and because of he has no familly so he doesn’t know the way to take care familly and a warm of familly. He asked me to teach him. But not mean he can dose all just better in everyday. So I wait for him because I love him and I feel his love. Well , you think why I tell you long story about us. I would show you that Thai girl are not want just the money , we want love and good take care. Warm familly and guy who is leader of familly. And if you love in eachother money or his background are not the most important. For me and my guy just start the relationship , still the long way , but I can feel the good sign. I would say ” To be continue ”
For persons who have bad experience with the relationship , with Thai girls or the other nationality , I would say never give up one day you will find your match, your lover. Goog lucky to everyone.
From Pass (If you see my eyes you can see the happiness).
Hi Leah,
I have been dating a Thai women for 10 months, I live in Singapore, so sometimes she comes to Singapore or I go to Thailand, and thank God for Skype! We have filed for a Fiance’ visa to U.S., so the commitment is their.
This may be more an Asia or third world situation, But what I felt when first meeting Arissara was that this was not going to be a screening interview, I did not have to meet a certain criteria, age, weight, education, ehtnicity, etc, etc. It was just a man and a women… Another thought, is the lack of identity crises with Asians? Who am I ? what do people think of me? Am I fat?? Do I drink to much? should I go back for my PHD? Bla, Bla, Bla. Most opinions regarding something this complex, are just a combination of a persons experiances in life, mixed in with a lot of heresay, bias, prejudices , seems like were making a bowl of stew, not sure whats in it, just know that it taste great!
I too am curious about the attraction to Thai Women? I agree with Steve as far as Thai women waiting or serving their western man? That is the last thing I want, regardless of the women being Thai or Western. I think their is a false impression by western women, and men as well, that that is what we want ” To be served and waited on”yuuck!. But back to the point at hand, seems like most folks are attracted to a person with out really knowing why? maybe it’s a chemistry issue? I look into her eyes and she does the same , the smile, the look? .. Maybe ?? here comes some generalizations now
Taking her to The States is a Mistake ,That is what she wants .I am sorry to say You will be the looser .They want to make money find another man with Money etc…. I did that twice so I know what I am talking about I NOW LIVE IN THAILAND HAPPILY MARRIED MY WIFE DOES NOT WANT TO LIVE IN THE STATES ,I DONT WANT TO LIVE THERE EITHER . HUA HIN IS THE GREATEST PLACE IN THAIL… I AM 72 Y/O I HAVE LIVED ON 3 CONTINENTS EUROPE ,US 40 + YEARS. & THAILAND OF COURSE .GOD LUCK.D.
Hi Steve,
Having spent a good deal of time in Thailand myself, I already know that every Thai woman has a unique personality. I was just saying that your post and your writing suggests that the most important thing about being with a “Thai Girl” is not their personality, but their knack for taking care of men. To be honest, as a woman I am rather offended by many of the things on this site because of their demeaning nature, but nevertheless, I find your posts very interesting because I’ve always wondered about the huge number of Western men I see with Thai women. (Here is an interesting article for you: http://www.nytimes.com/2010/09/25/world/asia/25iht-thai.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1&sq=thai%20women&st=cse&scp=1) This article brought up an interesting point: many Thai women don’t speak English very well when they get married to a Western man. Where’s the communication then? How does this even count as a real relationship, one that is not fueled by superficial Western men’s “needs” to be taken care of by a docile woman or fueled by economics for Thai “girls”?
The phenomenon of Western men marrying Thai women has always been a curiosity to me, but I’m starting to get a clearer picture. If men are looking for someone to pamper them and take care of them with little or no back talk, it seems like turning to a Thai “girl” is the thing to do. I understand your point about why you call them “Thai girls,” but I suggest you discontinue “girl” for “woman.” The simple fact that you call them “girls” and not “women” is the first indicator, maybe subconsciously, that you do not consider these people equals.
Hi Leah,
I started writing and got kind of carried away so rather than posting a 1k word comment you can find my response here.
Great story and video im still in the U.S she still in thailand started A small business there but its not doing to good so not sure what to do now.bill
I hate to tell you ,:2 teachers from Cal… USA told me last year “White women have no clues about the differance between Asian women & themselves “. You do not get it ! I am now 72 Married 6 times my thai wife is by far the best of them all put together …. for all the resons you could thing of +… I have lived on 3 continents Euro … 20 Years,US 40 years & asia now of course. Dan
Dan,
We can shake hands, almost. Just like you, I am 72 and have been married six times, to European and Latin women, and now I would like to find me a Thai wife, which is someting I should have done when I was there the first timem in my life when I was 42. I went again last year and I could pull my hair out (what’s left of it) for not having married a Thai wife then and live there. I love that country and I love the women. And not for the reason that many western men go there, in other words not for sex, although I had it. I will go back this year and find me one.
Perhaps you and your ability to compromise has increased after going through so many failed marriages?
Dear Leah.
You don’t understand that people don’t have the skills to communicate together properly and still find love?
how you think it is between an amercian man for example and a french woman?? I guess you havent thought about this since the french are white and western.
But in many cases you have the same problems. French people in general are poor in english.
Many thai women actually speak english, and some don’t. But the language of love is the same everywhere. Use body language, take things slower, realize that is one more obstacle that need be overcome. And thing work it self out over time. If the love is there and the will, people make it.
I read in here Leah, I think Steve and many others write with respect to Thai women and women in general. More than you should think, when you have such a predjudice view on them. They give you respectful replies and are gentlemen in what they write.
Now to turn the point. and to give you some thoughts. Western women like to shop, they like a big fancy house, nice car, kids, and spa, and clothes.
Western woman often like to put themselves before hub and kids.
Thai women like this too, but they are used to much less and are happy with less than western women.
And western women demand things of their hub, a surtain lifestyle for example.
Thai woman are more careful with money as I see it, if you not find a bar girl that is. I speak in general here, so keep that in mind.
So if you Leah could find a man who put you first because he wanted too, and take care of your kids, and really wanted to make you happy, and he had a real love for you, as well as he looks good, and maybe he is 6 years younger than you. If you like him you wouldent take him because he came from another country, or because his english wasn’t fluid???
I see more an more cougar women, is that in any way better???
I just ask,and I really look forward to read your reply;)
I am Norwegian, I have some errors in my spelling, would that be a hinder for you??? I mean my english is not perfect, does that mean we are not equal??
yes, you would have to be a American man to understand why we go to asia looking for a good wife, the truth we are treated like crap by American women, but you can’t see that I am sure, you work all you life, for a home, nice things, and build a family, on your own back breaking work, then have the woman you have always treated very well, cheat with the guy from work, or that she met from her shity friends, and when you find out, she leaves and then has the nerve to take everything you worked so hard for in court, then maybe you will have some understanding, I put it this way, if the American man, and the Thai Girl/Woman is happy, with the way they live, and care for each other, then why should you care?, I think I know why, cuz as this is found out by more American men, you worry that we will not take American women’s crap anymore, well I will tell you thats 100% true, we will not, and then my dear, your dream ride on the back of the American man will be over, I am sure with the internet, now you will see even higher counts of American men finding a woman that is willing to be a 50/50 partner in a REAL 2 way relationship, sorry for sounding mean, but this is my feelings and I am sure I am not the only one, if American women took the time to look at there ways, they would see the end is near, American men are not going to put up with it anymore, and down the road when the 2000′s are part of history, I bet they will talk about this, and it will be called the downfall of the American woman, but hey look at the brighter side, look how this is going to help race relations LOL
This topic is interesting to me as a Western woman, because I’ve noticed so many Western man with Thai women, but not vice versa. What is it about Thai women that is especially appealing? You say that Thai women make good girlfriends and wives because they were brought of up in a culture that puts heavy emphasis on women taking care of “their men.” Doesn’t this seem a tad superficial and hedonistic to you? What about their personalities? You really mention nothing about their personalities at all, you just boil down an entire category you title “Thai Girls” to pretty little things that like taking care of men and are fun in the bedroom. Sorry to say, but this post totally embodies every stereotype I held of relationships between Western men and Thai women. Interesting discussion though.
Another thing, don’t you think it is demeaning to call them “Thai Girls”? Why do you not refer to them as “Thai Women”? You surely can’t be promoting Western men getting Thai girls friends who are under 18?
Hi Leah and welcome to Thailand Musings. Your comments here are interesting to me since I very rarely get them from Western women. As with almost any post on the internet there are some stereotypes that are made and the post is probably not nearly as in depth as the subject matter deserves. If I was writing my masters thesis or doctoral dissertation then I probably would have gone into much more depth
Aside from the stereotypes (which I think are becoming less true as Thailand becomes more industrial and Westernized), I can assure you that yes, each Thai person is an individual and you will find the same traits and characteristics that you would find in any other country of the world. While culture does bring out some differences in Thais, human nature ensures that there are also many similarities.
Regarding the “Thai girls” question see my earlier response to Dan. I would also like to add that just the other day Golf and I were talking about my son getting a job next year (he’ll be turning 18) and she commented on how mature American teens and young adults are compared with their Thai counterparts. She thought that our independence and sense of responsibility at an early age contributed to this and I agree, but I also think this is why Thais in their young 20′s might still be referred to in a more diminutive form such as “boy” or “girl”. And in no way to I condone or advocate dating anyone anywhere who is under 18…unless of course you yourself are under 18
we live in a western culture that puts heavy emphasis onmen taking care of “their women.” can’t you see that, so if you really look at it, WE ARE YOUR THAI GIRLS!, can you see that, bend it any way you want, but I myself am sick of caring for a woman, that only cares about what I can do for her, soon I think it will be hard for an American WOMAN to find a man, as I am sure China is already finding a way to get rid of all the unwanted girls in China, I bet there goverment is looking into sending them to wife schools now LOL and selling them to American men LMAO hahahaha, but really, in all truth, American women need to take notes from Thai women, and understand her commitment and her drive for her family, not just her husband, Thai woman are very well rounded, in all things relationship, and they are great to be with, and American men know how to make them happy too, thats why, we treat them the same as we do you, but they thank us for it, you feel we should do more and take take take from us, well now more and more American men have found what I did, Thai woman!, so long American woman, as the song goes, “”American Woman, Stay away from me” there was a reason for that song.
Well if you think we Western men are so bad go try a Thai guy, Or all the other countries that treat women like crap, and cheat on them, how you you like a man that makes you cook dinner for his girl on the side, see you western women have NO CLUE how good you have it.
Till Dec 2009 I trusted my Wife who is Thai with my life. Then I caught her online chatting/Cheating with someone she thought was richer and younger. The sad thing is we had 2 daughters and she did not care. She went back to Bangkok(I sent her away)And I kept the girls. 10 months later she calls me and we choose to try and make it work. Telling me he was lieing. What a surprise huh? Now back in North America things were o.k not great but o.k as we built up the trust then I caught her phoneing this guy she met in England. She says its to tell him its over but she called from our house 1 am 2 am and 3 am while i was working(why even call?)but with her track record I doubt her story. Now not sleeping full of worry for the girls not me. Maybe I will never get Thai and it thinking but maybe i do not want to get it any more!
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Didn’t say that! Didn’t say “likes”. Reread my comments!
I said any girl “looking for a farang” (specifically) and more importantly I also said “Real, honest Thais DO NOT TARGET farangs on the internet (or anywhere else)”-I even used upper csae to highlight my point and you still misread/nisunderstood.
But to be fair to you Steve-you have an agenda and would not want to acknowledge a differing view!
You bang on about TLL, talking it up- and they pay you to provide links to their site, so you would want to ignore the fact that TLL is full of opportunists, freelance hookers, bargirls (a nice euphemism don’t you think), illiterate farm girls looking for a “way out” and a “windfall”, and assorted other scammers.
To deny this is to be dishonest. But of course their could well be a diamond or two amonsgt the dross!
@Greg – Yes you did say “looking for a farang” and in my optimistic haze I interpreted that to mean that they like farang. I understand fully that TLL does have it’s share of scammers and frauds, same as any other dating site out there. And I have cautioned quite a few guys who have written to me about girls they met on TLL. At the end of the day, TM is about MY experiences and I can say that while I did run into some questionable girls while on TLL I simply took the route of common sense and ignored them. My experience of the site was a good one overall, otherwise I wouldn’t recommend it to others. If you don’t feel comfortable with your ability to suss out a scammer then don’t use the site or any other dating site for that matter, that would be my advice to anyone. I have no agenda other then to share my own experiences of Thailand and I can certainly acknowledge a differing viewpoint, otherwise we would not be having this conversation as I would have simply deleted your comment.
As far as banging on about TLL here, I don’t think that’s the case. I just took a look through my recent posts and had to go back over 20 posts and 2 months to find another article that mentions TLL and that was one link within a 1200 word post. To be honest the majority of my posts don’t mention TLL at all and if you look through this years content you will find much more written on the subject of Thai tourism than anything. Just see the Destinations guides in the sidebar and you’ll find around 25,000 words of content that has been added over the past couple months that has nothing to do with girls or love in Thailand.
So, I won’t deny that there are dishonest people on TLL, to do so would be not only dishonest, it would be naive. With the huge member base they have I’m sure there are dishonest people of both genders on there, but just like in real life you don’t need to interact with them, just ignore them and go on with your business.
“The line that you quote was meant as a contrast to the Thai’s that most tourists typically meet and quoting it the way you have really takes it out of context. “Thai girls” refers to Thai females over the age of consent. Not sure why you felt it necessary to bring up pedophiles?”
Well, I thought it was fairly obvious but apparently not.
Referring to women as girls is patronizing in the extreme. A girl is someone in school. A women is the person you marry. It’s not difficult. This is why I also quoted that ludicrous bullshit about Thais making good pets, sorry, wives. I realise that the kind of man who needs – or dispenses – advice on how to get a wife over the internet or whether or not to marry a prostitute is probably not going to care too much about the dignity of others but it’s still worth pointing out.
And the plural of Thai is not Thai’s. It’s Thais.
@ Dan – Maybe in some circles it is and I apologize if I’ve offended anyone here. However, in talking to my wife (and her conversations with some friends) they have come to the consensus that to refer to a Thai female who is single and under the age of 25-26 as a “girl” is not patronizing and in fact is to be expected. Honestly most of the times I use it it is in that context and additionally I think of it to evoke thoughts of “girlishness” which I think you will agree all females of any age have to some extent. I’ve not likened Thais to pets in any way, although I believe some guys do think that way and that’s a shame.
Finally, thank you for pointing out my innocent error. I do understand the difference between the plural “Thais” and the possessive “Thai’s”. And since we are having English class I suppose it is only fair to point out that “women” is the plural form of the word and unless you are in favor of polygamy I suppose you meant to type “A woman is the person you marry.”
Now your talking out of the hole in your head, I myself am with a THAI GIRL, and she picks to be called that, she says, until she is married and has kids of her own, she is a girl, see Thai’s don’t think like you, so stop trying to think your American ways for them, see this is American women all the way, and I did not meet my wife on TLL or any dating site, and she is no poor farm girl, or bar girl, she come from a good family, and they teach there kids to be respectful people in life, and good Buddhists, you are fighting a fight about names that the THAI GIRL does not care about, and I bet most would tell you stay out of there business, as I have seen many get mad at American thinking they know what a Thai wants or needs or things, putting your thinking out there and saying it is down talking to them, let them be there own judge, American Women HAVE A LOT TO LEARN.
“Good Thai girls from normal society make outstanding girlfriends and wives.”
Labradors from good homes make outstanding pets and companions.
Anyway, what about Thai women? I know Thailand attracts its fair share of paedos but any advice to dispense about dealing with grown ups?
The line that you quote was meant as a contrast to the Thai’s that most tourists typically meet and quoting it the way you have really takes it out of context. “Thai girls” refers to Thai females over the age of consent. Not sure why you felt it necessary to bring up pedophiles?
I have lived here for 10 years and I agree with SoiDog101-Steve is a shill for TLL. That site is full of freelance hookers, bargirls and the proverbial ‘good girls’ who are scammers!
Read what stickman (for one) says about TLL (and farang/Thai relationships). If she (Thai woman) is looking for a farang means only one thing and that is – she is dangerous. The only ‘real’ relationships I know of are the ones that ‘happened’ naturally through meeting each other in normal daily life. Real, honest Thais DO NOT TARGET farangs on the internet (or anywhere else).
Internet is NEVER a substitute for real life! It is for losers (the men) to be spun in to the web of dishonest scammmers (the women)!
Thai women generally do not want to leave Siam and the ones that do are from poor, needy families (same as Phillipines)and you are their (and their families’)passport to financial stability. You are kidding yourselves gentlemen if you think otherwise!!
Wise up and take the advice!!
The idea that any Thai woman who likes foreigners is dangerous is in my mind a dangerous stereotype. We will have to get together sometime so you can expand your view of the world since my wife and I have been together over 5 years, have a “real” relationship and ‘happened’ to meet on an internet dating site. So, if I am being scammed it is quite a long and drawn out scam and Golf is worthy of several Emmy’s and Oscar’s.
You can talk to Golf to find out why some Thai’s prefer foreigners over their countrymen, it is really quite simple and contrary to the beliefs of many does not always involve money.
As to the women not wanting to leave Siam, yes that is true. It is also true of people from all over the world. It is a very small minority of people who would willingly leave their birth home. None the less, those who enjoy learning more of the world do exist, even in Thailand. As a contrast to your contention that Thai;s do not want to leave Siam I can tell you that Golf and I know quite a few Thai/American couples here and of those she is the only Thai who wants to leave America. And as far as the financial aspect goes, she works and helps pay the bills and we do not send money back to her family.
In the 21st century the internet CAN be a viable way to meet someone whom you are compatible with, assuming that you are not desperate or naive. Many men and women over the past 10 years have found each other online rather than in “real life” as you call it and these couples are just as happy as those who meet elsewhere. A look at the increasing divorce rate in the West from 1970-2000 should tell you that meeting in person may not always be the route to a successful relationship.
Hi. Greg.
You have lived in Thailand for 10 years. I envy you that, because it is a great country to be in. But honestly, I have lived in my home country for 30 years, and I don’t know everything here. With all the girls in Thailand, you feel safe to say that there are never a decent girl looking on internet at men??
Some girl go in there for fun, some go in there for curiosity, and some go in there to play, and some go in there to look for love.
So if you are lucky you can find a good decent girl there. I found one that seems promising, but only time will tell if it is true or not.
But from what you write you are either the new Einstein since you know it all, or you are very predjudice.
i been on thai love links and yes there is bad girls on there as well as nice thai girls i been talking with thai girl from chiang kham phayao for 3 months now but now she says can i wait 5 to 6 months for her and she said she not sure about everything in her life
what does that mean
Hey Martin,
Take the “Good Girl, Bad Girl” list in context. If you met her in Nong Khai and she had never left there I would say yeah the list might apply. If she’s lived in Bangkok then things are a bit different as Bangkok is really not like the rest of Thailand.
Yes it’s true that traditionally sin sot (dowry) is not paid if the girl is not a virgin. That being said I think that in the case of a Westerner marrying a Thai the same rules do not apply. Many have made the case that dowry should not be paid at all since we are not Thai and do not follow Thai cultural rules. Some have said that this is the Thai’s trying to “rob us”. I think all of that is rubbish.
Here’s what I think…you are still expected to pay dowry just as a Thai guy would. In fact, I think that not paying the dowry would result in a great loss of face for your new wife and her family. Assuming you make an average Western wage you are quite well off by rural Thai standards and the expectation is that you would not be stingy or greedy when it comes to your wedding.
At the end of the day though it really comes down to what you are comfortable with. Keep in mind that Thai’s negotiate dowry (usually the best man will negotiate with the brides mother – that’s the traditional way) so if you’re willing to pay the dowry, but the figure is too high have your fiancee intervene on your behalf. If you’re marrying into a decent family they certainly don’t want to bankrupt you at the beginning of your marriage.
I was a bit hesitant myself at first, however the dowry ended up paying for the wedding and we got to keep the guests gifts…it all evened out pretty well and still cost probably 1/20th of what a wedding in America would have cost.
thanks alot steve , put my mind at rest there , she told me she wasnt a virgin and by coincidence, ive just seen your bargirl good girl bad girl list so does that mean shes a bargirl , as it was big on the losing virginity thing , her family from nong khai by the way, but even more important it saya dowry not paid if not a virgin soo she must know that soo whats your comments on that please
hi steve , ive recently started chatting to a thai girl for 4 months now , and was online trying to find out as much as possible about thailand when came across this site, soo far she seems ok and although we not meet , there is a connection it seems , she hasnt asked for money but said if we marry i must give dowry to her mum which is custom culture , but she says she not know address as rents room , she said doesnt like people living there and gave me another safe address to correspond , she did give me the road in chonburi but not name or number of property do you think this is strange, consider that she said i could stay there when i come over , but still ? in mind why , ive her mobile number and name too am i being too negative because im reading all negative stuff about thai girls , everyone who i tell says dont trust after your money what do you think steve
In my opinion people are much more likely to share bad experiences as opposed to good. I think this is why you find so many negative stories floating around the internet when it comes to dating and marrying Thai girls. Of course that’s not to say that all the stories are false, I’ve met both good Thai girls and bad Thai girls over the years. I’ve also met good and bad American, Russian, Singaporean, etc…I think you get the idea.
If she hasn’t asked for money that’s a good thing although I think people may make more of that than necessary too. I loaned money to Golf 4 months after we met (a small amount) and was promptly paid back 2 months later when I arrived in Bangkok. So it’s not always the kiss of death when your Thai girlfriends asks for money.
Regarding the address thing I think that is common too. Golf eventually gave me her apartment address in Bangkok (I don’t think she knew what the address was until I pressured her to find out), but I never mailed anything to that address because she didn’t trust the people living there either. Anything mailed went to her work address or her parents home. I’m not entirely sure what the deal is with the name and number of the property in Chonburi, but its possible she simply doesn’t know.
Bottom line…unless she gives you some reason to be negative or suspicious I wouldn’t worry. Don’t let the negative experiences and pessimism of others color your own thoughts. As with any relationship a bit of common sense and trust is necessary. Take your time and let things develop naturally.
Oh, you may want to think twice about staying with her and her family in Chonburi. Trust me it can be quite exhausting living like a Thai even for just a few days. Think about no air con in 90+ degree heat, possibly no indoor plumbing, mosquitos everywhere and eating with the family for a week and decide if you really want to do that. I do it at Golf’s parents, but I can’t say I enjoy it. A better option may be to stay in a hotel nearby and just spend the days with the family.
Met my thai wife in ireland last year she is honest and a wonderful lady i visited her family this year and they are good hardworking honest family from isann she never asked for money or neither did her family she is univeresty educated and i feel so blessed i know some guys can get caught out but that is life the good thai women are beautiful inside and out . There are bargirls in all parts of asia not just thai the phillipinnes as well as i had 1 bad experience with 1 filipino but i learned my lesson and moved on and am not bitter there are always a few bad apples but now i am so lucky and thankful for finding love with my thai woman best a luck to all here
I am american and have been living in Thailand for 4 years so i have first hand knowlage of this country. I am sorry to disagree with you Steve but i think your here to sign people up for Thai Love Links. I have met and married a girl here and also divorced her after 1.5 years of marriage. What you have writen here is all but cream on a cake with these girls. My ex-wife was one of your so called good girls going to college for her BA as all kids do here in this country. What i now know about the girls here i could write a book and probly should. If ANYONE wants to know the truth about the girls here i would be more than happy to answer you. I am not here to talk bad about the girls as they are beautiful and i am living with my Fianc’e who is a 5 year english Major with a teaching degree. But i also want any guy here who has or is thinking about meeting a Thai girl to know everything he should about them. And trust me guy’s they do lie and not just the BG’s but it is how they were brought up. It cost me over 3 million Thai Baht with my Thai wife to find out how things really are here in The (LOS).
I’m curious here. I’m half Thai and been living here almost my entire life. How did you meet your ex wife? What happened. Not all Thai women are like that. In fact, it’s the same in every continent of the world. Just avoid ladies that are on survival mode.
Hi . I would like to to know the truth about the girls in thailand , and what i should do to protect myself . any advice would be appreciated . Thanks
Dont underestimate Thai Lady
Dont Look dow on Thai Lady Pls.
Hi Steve
I would like to ask if Golf would be interested in seeing if the girl I am dating is for real or not. I realise this would be hard for her as well though I figure she will know the questions to ask and what the response is like (ie if she gives the “right” response)
I am willing to pay for her time if she is interested and understand if this request is a little strange and cannot be transacted.
If willing, I am happy to share some details of both the lady and myself
She is 25 I am a very young at heart 43 yo (both score nil on the kids front)
Cheers
RR
Hi everybody, I am Italian but living in Canada since 12 years, and I met long time before a Thai girl in Italy, and I went to see her in London again, but with no success since she was out of country that time. Anyway, since then I had interest for a Thai woman, and I am an oriental philosophy studier so I assume I had always a sort of tendency to get in to a Thai woman “idea”. I have been in Philippines before, and I had some experience with Philipino women, and I have very good facts to remember. But then happened that I met once in one trip of mine a Thai girl just sharing some conversation, but I was passing by and we said to stay in touch by emailing. In fact that’s what happened, we stayed in touch by emailing and chatting by internet for 5 years and also by webcam. But I never thought to start a relation-ship with this woman. Then after 5 years for some reason I started to like her as appereance but also as personality, she is a great woman with so many qualities of loyalty in friend-ship, and so many great principles in the life. She is hard worker and very understanding person and with an amazing character, thinking, talking and interfering with me. Then we decide to meet after 5 years, in Bangkok. We kissed the first day. But we felt to know each other very well, in fact it was like that, maybe that’s why happened. She got vacations from work, and she is living in Bangkok far from her hometown, then she was a bit more free to date me. In fact we decided to spend 3 weeks in Koh Samui, where we lived together. And we had a great respect for each other but I proposed to her to become boyfriend and girlfriend, because I found an incredible match being with her. Then now we are planning to get married after 1 year of that meeting, and I know dowry, I know well Thai culture, and I am sending money to her to save to achieve 200,000 baht as parents requested. I am not expecting money back, but I just hope to reach as soon as possible the amount requested because it’s the best thing happened in my life.
Cheers
Derek,
Glad to hear that you’ve met a nice Thai girl and everything seems to be going really well with you. As far as the bg’s posing as uni students and such, I think that is increased recently, but as long as you maintain some common sense and such I think anyone has a good chance to meet a good Thai girl. Like you said, if it sounds too good to be true it probably is and never send more money than you are willing to lose. In some cases it is truly justified, but in many cases it will be a scam and they are just looking to get into your pocket. In my case I did send money to Golf before meeting her and I received it back 6 weeks later when I arrived in Thailand. This totally solidified my trust in her. Needless to say, 3+ years later and we are still together and happier than ever.
timothy wake up man i wouldnt think thai police man earn 30 000 and they certainly would not send it to an x gf how did she buy a car wake up man you have not got a thai gf find a nice thai lady think man how did she live with him if he had a family and kids so shes just bought a car and building a house wake up or she is going to wake you up i dont know you or her but think about it how can she love you she dont even know you ive been there i know how it can seem i was stupid to but i woke up in time now i have a nice honest thai lady if it sounds to good to be true then it is i even went and met her parents and thankfully my son came with me and told me a few home truths best if luck maybe im wrong but i dont think so
havibg read about tll yes great site i met someone from there but dont be fooled the bar girls are on there to posing as university students to professionals just be careful and dont be stupid dont send money before your sure and bewarw the ghanqa girls on there hope everyone fonds a good thai girl they are the best but if you get a wrong one they can be the worst nightmare
I accept ur comment.
To all farangs .pls do not come see Thai women 4 marry.
U all should find “the way” to “share” ur life with somone first.
Not “capital” love with Thai servants.
Farangs do not stupid to live ur own live.
Good & bad there evrywhere in the world.
Y expect frm Thai much????
I have a Thai friend (girl) that I meet on the internet about 3 mounths ago. We first wrote emails back and forth to each other then we talked on the phone and after we started to chat on MSN. She tells me she came to Bongkok about 4 years ago when she was 15 to go to school. First she got a job at a golf course holding an umbrella, like a cady I guess. She then met a man who was 42 and the started a relationship, she started to live with him and went to school. She found he had a family and kids and broke up with him. Now 2 years have passed and she clames she hasent seen him. Now to keep this short we talk on the phone alot, she calls me about 3 times a day and I call her to and we chat for about 2 to 3 hrs a night. She tells me this x boy friend of hers sends her 30000 a month for her appartment and school, ect… I ask why and she says he is a thai police man and wants to take care of her? She is now building a home for her parents, who I have also talked to. And she tells them that she has fallen in love with me? With her schooling, and I know she is in school because I have chatted on MSN when in school, and talking with me I dont see how she has another man in her life. And she speakes english very good also. This week she just bought a car. She never asked me for money and wants me to visit her next year. I tell he that I can only bring $1000.00 US doller and she says that she can pay if I run out of money. She also menchened last week she is plaining on moving to a diffrent appartment and changing her phone # after school is out in Febuary.I feel like he feeling are honest with me, she says she was bad to men but after meeting me she changed, she liked to hurt men and make them cry. I wounder if this girl has scamed men out of money and even a house? Because she was hurt by her first boyfriend? I told her I am not rich and she says we can work togeather. I am very confused with her. Can you help?
@Tim, there are a few Flags, but maybe she is in love, and well very ez, you will have to go and meet her in person, spend a few months if you can, get to know her in person, and if you can pay for it, have a Thai PI check her out, find out if all she tells you is the truth, best of luck my friend, I hope all is good and works out.
Best of luck to you!
I’m certain that you’ll have success in your quest since you already have some understanding of Thai culture from your past relationship and you also have some guidance from your Thai friend. I wouldn’t be surprised to see a comment from you by this time next year letting us know that you’re happily married and your new wife is in South Florida with you :>)
Just wanted to comment that i am jumping in with both feet to meet a Thai wife. I live in South Florida and have a good friend who is Thai and owns a Thai restaurant. I have eat there often and have met several of his workers but have never dated any of them except one girl in particular. She was very nice, kind and considerate. She had alot of personal problems which haunted her every step and I felt it was not healthy to be with her and bailed. Since then i have decided to meet a possible girl friend/wife from Thailand with the help of my friend who owns the restaurant. He is willing to help me if I meet someone special. I have joined Thailovelinks and have posted my profile and am actively beginning what it takes to meet the right Thai girl. Wish me luck!!!!
while having limited experience with Thai women, I have seen the blending of western society in the younger generation, the shyness in public places and their lack of inhibition in private. They are wonderfully feminine and devoted within relationships, a breath of fresh air. But beware the more modern girls, as they act far less traditionally than their mothers, and be very aware of appearances, presentation and manners. All of which are highly valued in this asian culture, and with the politeness of the Thai culture, they will seldom, if ever, correct you or indicate that you have offended them.
Very true